I converted some years back but it was a mistake. I converted for the wrong reasons. I want to be able to wear short sleeves in summer and just be free, be myself, do what I want, but I am trapped in an oppressive situation. I can not escape due to being flat broke, not being able to get a job despite applying everywhere for 2 years, having no one to help me no support system at all. I do not want to go to a shelter that's why I'm still in this oppressive place. I think someone put a curse on me, I asked another question about that. Because even crappy places wouldn't hire me so I could save up to escape.
2006-12-17 07:44:56 · 37 answers · asked by BereaGirl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The reason I'm trapped is cause I have kids so my choices are to either 1)stay miserable, oppressed, angry 2)abandon kids and leave 3)take kids and be homeless together
I applied at even fast food places and they didn't call back. So I am trapped until I get a job. Which may never happen if it hasn't by now.
2006-12-17 08:02:42 · update #1
I guess when things get bad enough that shelter will start looking good to you.
2006-12-17 07:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I don't think Islam is the problem; it's just your circumstances and unfortunately you must've been in the wrong place at the wrong time. It happens to a lot of people. I feel really bad that you can't find a job. The economy has been sucky in the last few years. Maybe it's just your outlook. But hey, Islam doesn't have to oerburden you; you can set your own boundaries. The Quran says to be modest and wear loose clothing. You draw the line where you want and interpret that for yourself. Lots of arab Muslims *might* try to convince you that their way is the only way. I wish more American Muslim converts could shine their own light and views on Islam. Just cuz your a convert doesn't mean you have no say in Islam's meaning, Formulate an understanding (with grounded back up) and lead a normal life. Find some time to relax in nature (ocean, lake, mountain, hill, garden etc.) and just sit and ponder the vast and wonderful creation of God. It's not Islam. It's probably just you (or other stubborn Muslims around you "raining on your parade.") Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-17 17:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by justmyinput 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me as if you MIGHT be living by the flux of feelings. Did you REALLY convert for what you call "bad" reasons? Or are you just missing the superficial benefits of not being Muslim?
These are questions you need to answer for yourself. I do not know what oppresses you: Is it that reality of living by commitment has you in a bind? Then talk to a spiritual counselor within the realm of your Muslim Faith. But if you are not happy due to mistreatment, then this is something else. Can you get the help of your relatives? Mother , Father, sister,brother, Aunt , Uncle, friend? Just continue looking for a job, and you WILL find it.
There is no curse. Do not allow "something bigger" which really doesn't exist further oppress you. This will only add to your despair, and make you give up
God Bless Your EFFORTS.
2006-12-17 08:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call a women's help-line or a support line for battered/abused women. They'll be able to give you advice on the logistics of leaving your situation. Even a women's health clinic can direct you to someone that can help.
If you truly don't have anywhere else to go, you probably will have to spend a month or two in a shelter. Why are you so resistant to doing that? You'll be with people who can help you.
Forget the idea of a curse. It takes away your power and your responsibility for the situation. You can do something about it. You just have to do it.
Write to me by the end of next week with the first step that you're going to take to change your situation.
2006-12-17 08:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a right of choice and religion. But I do wish that you had a knowledge person to help you when you were coming to Islam, if you had joined Islam for the right reasons than you might not have had these problems.
But its not too late, leaving Islam, or any religion is an important step. Don't stay Muslim because someone wants you to be Muslim, but don't leave Islam for the wrong reasons either. For example, just because there are a couple of bad Muslims that isn't reason enough, or because you are finding it hard to get a job e.t.c Please talk to other Muslims, read the Quran or at least just ask God to guide you.
Think thoroughly about your steps, don't make another mistake by leaving Islam for the wrong reasons. Where do you live? there are a lot of Muslim organizations in North America who can help you get out of this abusive situation and also get you good work or support. Please send me a personal message if you need any other information.
Remember, worldly problems is not reason enough to leave Islam, only leave it if you truly believe that it is not the true guidance from God, because money helps you in this life, true guidance helps your for eternity.
2006-12-17 07:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Abdullah r 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't understand your situation. How are you trapped? Where do you live? Are you married to a Muslim or something, that you can't just do what you want?
If you're living in a free Western country, you can leave your religion any time you want. Your financial situation is a separate matter. If you are very desperate, you can always find work at a restaurant or other low skill job where they are always hiring.
Then again from reading your other questions, I think you might just be using this question to try and screw with people.
2006-12-17 07:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
The only one who can put a curse on you is YOU by believing that this is possible. If you really don't want to be in your situation go to the shelter where they will have leads and resources for you to start anew.
Good luck!
2006-12-17 07:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just leave Islam silently, you don't need to convert to any other religion right away. Take all the time you need to think of your future way. Good luck for you.
2006-12-17 08:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sternchen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have no resources then a short period in some form of shelter, where you will have protection and be able to get advice and/or assistance, is probably unavoidable. If you really want your freedom you will have to strive for it. I wish you well - good luck.
2006-12-17 07:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tony B 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
just understand when you are truly ready to change, grow and get away you will. have more self confidence all i read was i cant and it wont, and all of this is negative learn that life is possible and tell yourself "i am, im doing" know only you control yourself and only you will change yourself. Positive think gets you about 80% of the way.
2006-12-17 07:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by fay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Layla,
If you're serious, email me. I'm a former muslim convert and I would be happy to talk with you and offer moral support through this time.
All the best (seriously - despite my joking answer to your previous question),
Lazarus
2006-12-17 07:48:10 · answer #11 · answered by The Man Comes Around 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋