I am getting married in two weeks and have always dreamed of being treated like a Princess for my wedding. However, my fiance and I do not have a lot of money and what money we do have was spent on the reception.
My MOH, Charlotte, has been a saint. At my bacholerette party, she did a spa night. She spent over an hour giving me a pedicure, massaging my feet and giving me a facial. It was really divine. One of the other girls at the party asked me if Charlotte would mind giving her one and I told her no. I was a bit drunk at the time and did not think much of it. She ended up doing it for all 5 girls at the party.
Charlotte has been a great friend. She is my only bridesmaid. I had asked her to do a few things for me on the big day but I am worried she is upset at me. She is staying over at my apartment the night before and i asked her to make me breakfast in bed followed by another great massage and pedicure. She has been very quiet about it. Am I asking too much?
2006-12-17 07:24:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think being treated like a princess is nice once in a while, but you don't want your friend feeling like you're using her. maybe just breakfast in bed and not a massage. just because it's your wedding doesn't mean that you have to be treated like a princess. best friends should be treated as friends, not pack mules. i just want you to know that if she's being quiet about it, she's probably not that excited in pampering you and treating you like you're better than her.
2006-12-17 07:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be this "princess" myth going around when it comes to brides. Meaning, the bride to be feels entitled to treat her attendants, family, fiance, caterer and anyone she chooses to like garbage, because it's "HER day." Should you LOOK like a princess on your wedding? Of course, go and buy yourself a tiara if that's what you want! But what you are acting like goes far from Princess...more like an entitled diva! People will WANT to do things for you for your wedding a lot more if they are treated like honored friends and family. You asking her to do all these things is just plain poor manners and very rude. Your friend sounds like a very wonderful person. Tell her you don't know where your head has been, and offer to take her out for a special lunch or spa as atonement for your behavior.
2006-12-17 17:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the term Bride-Zilla? I think you have turned into one. You are getting married, and you have the right to be pampered, but not at the cost of losing a friend. I would be offended if my "friend" asked me to do this. You aren't treating her as a friend at all. Once you get to your wedding, you will be treated like a princess, don't make your best friend be your slave to make you feel like royalty from the moment you wake up. If I were you, I'd invite Charlotte over for lunch (that you made!) and apologize, if not, you may find that after your wedding you won't have her around anymore.
2006-12-17 14:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by ky-ky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making it sound like she is your "hand maiden"...goodness me, she is your friend...and you're demanding her to make you breakfast in bed?? Sorry, but I think that's going too far, how old are you? Can you not make your own toast and coffee? I am not surprised she is being quiet about it, she probably doesn't know what to say. Your wedding day is not about you being a princess, it's the start of an adult life with your partner, not your opportunity to act like a spoiled brat.
2006-12-17 22:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are asking too much of her. You also should not have volunteered your friend to give everyone a pedicure and massage unless you were paying her. Since you aren't you owe her an apology for being inconsiderate.
2006-12-17 07:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by lady01love 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
uuhhh yeah. How would you feel if someone asked you to fix them breakfast and massage their feet. It seems a little like you're acting like she's your maid.
She's your maid of honor she's got so much to do to help you without the whole making breakfast/ feet thing. If you're wanting breakfast fix it yourself and for the whole foot thing so to a salon, have them do your feet and toes and at the same time, why not take her with you and pay to do her feet and toes too, show her that you appreciate her.
2006-12-17 07:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to want to be treated like a princess on your wedding day, however not at the expense of your friends. Being a princess does not mean being selfish, in fact a princess is selfless. She is kind, loving and giving to others, not a selfish bore who treads on the toes of others for her own selfish desires and whims. Your friend is being the true princess. Perhaps you should learn from her.
2006-12-17 07:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by T esira 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well kinda yeah, Your welcome to dress like a princess, but however iam sure the guy who marries you would love you just as you are, Stop worring about your friend, maybe she has things on her mind and that she will discuss it with you later, Dont worry about it, But see sweety its nice to have somethings, but alot of people in this day and age, doesnt have the money anymore because of the war for one thing, And calm down, just do your thing but lighten up on the frilvious things
2006-12-17 07:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you want to feel like a princess, but she is your friend. I would never dream of asking a friend of mine or a family member to wait on me. It would have been better if she offered and you took her up on it then you asking her to do it because she is your friend and feels obligated to do it. You should really tell her how much you appreciate her and do something spectacular for her. Asking her to be your maid on the wedding day in my opinion is dumping all over her.
2006-12-17 09:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are asking too much, particularly if you would not do it for her.
Make the breakfast part easy--take her out to a restaurant as a thank you.
If she wants to give you another pedi, let her, but don't expect it.
You want you wedding to be about you, and your right, but Charlotte, should not have had to give 6 pedicures in one night.
Let her know that you appreciate what she did.
2006-12-17 12:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋