so i asked for her hand in marriage which was 3 weeks ago now. no answer. then last night we go out to dinner, & she told me that a couple of months ago i was the reason that she failed her mid term b/c she was thinking about me SO much since i took off to florida for a week on vacation. i was shocked, but didn't say anything, i just wanted to have a nice dinner. she goes on to say how much she loves me & doesn't want to lose me, but yet it is my fault for her failed mid term which i cant understand since she works and goes to school, and i work full time plus OT. so after she tells me this, my head is spinning! why am i with her when she is blaming me for that test? i planned my vacation a month before and if she doesnt want my hand YET doesnt want to lose me, what i am doing wrong? i dont try to guess what she is thinking of, she claims that im on her mind 24 - 7, but it doesnt feel like i really am. we have a great relationship, but now with all of this last night, im having doubts
2006-12-17 07:19:01 · 14 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple bro..... Run now while you can!!!!!!... She is mental and it will only get worse!!! Be gone....and thankful you found out before you got hitched...... Just a thought.....Peace...
2006-12-17 07:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Martini-69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is proabably at a confusing state right now in her life...she says that ur on her mind 24/7 u probably are...maybe she feels guilty that she cant say yes to the propsal...since she has so much work to do like u said she had to work ot. she isnt really blaming u but somehow it sounds that way since she doesnt kknow how to explain herself so well...so give her some time it looks like she is very stressed out...so be the understanding bf i know u are and let her think things through im sure she doesnt want u to feel this way but she needs someone that she can talk to and know that will understand and that person is u! so be there for her and i know ur relationship will work out fine!
2006-12-17 15:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off she is to blaim for her own failure not you cause she was thinking of you that is total bullocks i took several test with all kinds of things on my mind like death of friends and family and stuff and still focused if she is playing that card she oviously has a trust issue with you being on vacation and her not there to see what you were doing and its possible she is trying to transfer emotions to be evasive about the question you asked her 3 weeks ago if she doent want to get married then she should be a woman and just say so not try to make it seem ask if she is so hurt by failing a mid term cause she was thinking about you.
2006-12-17 15:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the blame. If she blames you for this, which was her own fault, can you even think of how many other things you will be the blame for after marriage. Be careful, think long and hard about this marriage. There are many people in the world that always blames someone else.
2006-12-17 15:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agree with everyone up there except JarJarBinks(!?!?)- I would start to question/get worried about having deep feelings for someone who is blaming you for failing her exam because you went on a planned vacation!? That's preposterous and doesn't bode well at all for your future as a couple- what else is she going to pin on you?
2006-12-17 15:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better speak up now and tell her you are not taking the blame because she cannot handle her load. If you dont get a handle on it now then when your married she will be blaming everything that happens on you.
It sounds like you dont know her as well as you thought. You might want to wait on marrying her.
2006-12-17 15:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should try thinking about her more instead of yourself. What did you do to help her with her test? Why did you go on vacation without her? it doesn't sound like she is the focus of your life as a good relationship should be. you should have been there helping her with studying or whatever you could have done.
2006-12-17 15:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are NOT to blame for her failing her test. SHE is just too immature to take responsiblity for her own CHOICES. She CHOSE to spend too much time thinking of you and not on her studies, therefore SHE is to blame for failing the test. Now YOU have to deicde whether YOU want to be married to an immature female who doesn't take responsilbity for herself.
2006-12-17 15:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to blame you that she didn't have time to study because people don't want to blame themselves. Like the job and everything didn't have anything to do with it. She's feeling bad about herself and is trying to put you down to feel better about her own self.
2006-12-17 15:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by K-E-G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being very selfish. It is her own fault she failed that test, you didn't take it for her! She should of concentrated instead of daydreaming. Explain that to her. In a kind and thoughtful way.
2006-12-17 15:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Short and sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋