She is terriffed about having 2 adult teeth out. In tears, and refusing to go.
I've told her that, Only the injections will hurt a little. I'll be with her. And it will be over quickly.
This hasn't made any difference. She's told me that, she's definatley not going. lol.
Thinking about forcing her, just to get it over with. Is that a bad idea ?
please help me. what do i do ?
2006-12-17 07:14:27 · 19 answers · asked by mary l 1 in Health ➔ Dental
tell her what will happen. explain the procedure. say in a soothing voice, "First they will relax you and rub some cream around the area. Then they will give you a little its-bitsy shot. The shot will barely hurt at all because it is a shot that makes your mouth numb." I got two teeth pulled without anesthetic, and it didn't hurt at all (this just happened, and I'm newly 12). Good luck. If you've pulled all the stops and nothing else works, call the dentist office and see if you can have one of the nurses or her dentist talk to her and explain why they have to do it and how much it will hurt (make sure he will be honest, though). GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-17 11:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a dentist's worst nightmare. If you don't have control over your child, no one will be able to gain control over your child. She is 11 years old, but from the sound of it, she holds most of the cards in the relationship. This isn't something that is fixable overnight, but for everyone's sake involved, tell her it won't hurt AT ALL. Why did you even tell her that she is getting a "shot"? She should know that her teeth will "go to sleep" using some "sleepy juice" and that she will only feel some pressure while the dentist is "wiggling her tooth" just before it pops out.
Don't even think about giving her any kind of sedative before the procedure...herbal or otherwise. Anything you give her, herbal or not, could have an adverse interaction with what the doctor will be giving her. They can use nitrous oxide (laughing gas) to sedate her if it's available at the office. Call the dentist (although if it's tomorrow, you may not be able to do anything about it now) and see what he/she can do for your child. If she gets her way and a necessary procedure is not done because of it, you've REALLY done her a disservice. Best of luck to you and your daughter.
2006-12-17 07:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about it. If you've had your teeth taken out then tell her about it but don't scare her lol.
Tell her that the only painful part about getting your teeth taken out is that you have a minor headache the next day. You can't even feel a thing when you get them taken out. Maybe the day before she has her teeth taken out you could make her her favorite meal or something. That might make her feel better...I don't know.
If that doesn't work then you'll have to force her. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like it, she's going to have to do it. Tell her she either has her teeth taken out and get braces so she can get perfect teeth, or she can keep the teeth, have screwed up teeth for the rest of her life and get made fun of in high school and college. That might scare her and want to get her teeth taken out....again, I don't know. But it's worth a try lol.
Remember, your her mother! If she's still refusing to go then drag her in there while she's kicking and screaming if you have to.
2006-12-17 08:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that when all of this is done she will have beautiful teeth and all the boys will love to see her smile (that's what my parents told me when i had to get my braces) if that doesn't work just try telling her if you go to the dentist and be good you'll take her to the mall for a shopping spree or when shes completely healed take her best friend out to the movies or something, bribery is somewhat wrong but it always has some positive effect. and if that doesn't work, talk to the dentist and see if they can give you a calming drug so they can do the work and she doesn't fight.
2006-12-17 08:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get those teeth fixed now. If she doesn't, she will be sorry.
Now, I had to have some dental work done a few times, and my mother drove me because I didn't have a car. What we would do is stop into a little restaurant we knew and get something to eat on our way there. Not that I thought it was a good idea, but I was hungry after working all day!
I ordinarily wouldn't suggest bribery, but have you tried suggesting that?
2006-12-17 07:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the teeth need to be pulled then you need to make her go. Tell her everything will be fine. Don't tell her that it will hurt. Also tell her that you had teeth pulled before and it didn't hurt her. When you take her don't be in the room with her. Wait outside because when your're there with her it only makes matters worse and she will only act out knowing that you will be there to stop the doctor from hurting her.
2006-12-17 07:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by miss_thang0032 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean refusing? She's 11...you are the adult, we are assuming. Had exactly the same situation..I told mine she didn't make the decisions in this house. And if she wanted to go to the dentist screaming and crying and embarrass herself that was the only choice she had in the matter. Besides, I told her the dentist would hit her in the head with a big sledge hammer so she probable wouldn't feel anything anyway.
2006-12-17 07:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by louise t 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you should talk with her more about this. My parents forced me to go to the denist, even though I was scared, now I am 24 and havent been since I was 17.But tell her she will eventually have to have them out.
2006-12-20 08:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You simply explain to her that she "has" to go and that it wont last long. Also explain to her that there will be times in life that no one wants to experience but have to. At the same time, have sympathy for her and her feelings about the procedure. After you are done talking to her about it, ask her how she feels. Afterwords, let her know that you are proud of her!
2006-12-17 07:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her it apsolutly dose not hurt.. i had 4 teeth out and you cant feel a thing.. i even fell asleep in the chair.. i had braces and have ECELENT teeth now.. i have just been accepted by a modeling agency ! they said i had nice straight pearly teeth.. do not force her.. talk to her and tell her its for her own good
much love and good luck
x
2006-12-17 07:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by l88_legwarmer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋