about 6 years ago - and it still burns like fire, especially because he came down to my country, we lived together for a couple of years and then he found someone else in my country and left me. This year, after I did not think too much of him anymore, he came after me by writing emails and the wound has open again. He came, he hurt me again and he is gone again. I was almost healed and then he came again and the sore point is hurting as it never did before. I need to let it go, I need to release this man, he is such a confusing one, facing many health problems right now. He also lost all his possessions because someone stole him on his business. I tried to comfort him and again he hurt me bad. Please, help me to let it go, help me to release the pain. I am a good woman, I need to move on with my life and forgive this guy. We are not young anymore. He is 64 and I am 52.
2006-12-17 07:13:27 · 8 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I meant that he wrote me again, but I never saw him again because he says he is afraid he might hurt me and he says he does not know what he did wrong to hurt me. He is confusing but still: I must let him go.
2006-12-17 07:34:04 · update #1
there is only one way, and that is every time you remember him, forgive him in the name of Jesus, it is not a instant solution, but it does work, but if he contacts you again you need to tell him that he has hurt you enough and not to contact you again.
and you need to not only forgive you need to forget.
until you forget, you will always be reminded when you remember.
my mother had a problem when i was younger, and it hurt her so much, that she knew that she had to forgive the people that had hurt her, and although she thought she had forgiven them, each time she would mention the incident you could hear the bitterness in her voice. and she was being reminded of the pain that it had caused.
to forget the pain you have to forget the incident, for example,
each time that thought is brought to your rememberance, you have to say, I have forgiven that and put it into the hands of Jesus.
the scripture I us is this, Jesus said "vengeance is mine I will repay"
your friend has sown and by what you said he have reaped the whirlwind. and then he came crying back to you only to hurt you again.
I can see that you are a good compassionate person, and he is using that to take advantage of you.
2006-12-17 07:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is an act of release-and-let-go. When we forgive we saying, "What you did was wrong, it was crap, I did not deserve it. It hurt me deeply. But I will no longer hold it against you in our relationship. I will not carry the grudge or harbor resentment. I choose to let go."
It takes time to recover from the shock, to understand the magnitude of what happened, to touch the bottom of our pain. Forgiveness is a process. An example I have heard: "Its like peeling an onion, you take off the skin, only to discover another layer, and another, until, many tears later, you've peeled it down to the core."
2006-12-17 07:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by thundercatt9 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, admit to yourself how much he hurt you and then work on forgiving him. You don't have to tell him, you could write it on a note and float it down a river or send it on a postcard to postsecret. Make a ceremony of it. Either way you need to let it go so you don't have to carry it round. Before you do, acknowledge what you have learned from all of this. I suspect that you also need to forgive yourself for taking him back in the first place. Peace be with you and Merry Christmas. Good luck.
2006-12-17 07:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by sticky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness and compassion, and empathy is rather simple.
How?
Just simply remember when you have made mistakes. In this case you may not have ever cheated. But, maybe you have made similar mistakes. Didn't you want to be forgiven, would it have to be a miracle for that to happen? Didn't you still want to be loved, even if you had made a mistake?
Well, now, you have the chance to work a miracle; forgive him and love him no matter what.
Guess what? Not only will you have worked a miracle, you may see him work one ....... and on, and on, an on.
good luck.
PS: There is only one reason why people cannot seem to change their habits or personality: 1. They have never been forgiven (truly forgiven) and thusly they have never learned to forgive anone else.
2006-12-17 07:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by MrsOcultyThomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 52 you should realize that in order to have God's blessing on any relationship, you should do things HIS way. Unfortunately as this is already done, you cannot go back, but I would recommend that you fill your mind and heart with spiritual things. Read the Bible every day (even just a few scriptures), meditate on what you have read and see what it tells you about God and about his purposes for the earth and mankind. Filling yourself with good, positive things from God will crowd out any negativity that may still exist for you.
2006-12-17 07:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry your the only one that can help with that the only thing i can do is direct you to God....tell Him and ask Him to help you let go of this man...thats the only thing that will work...i'll be praying for you
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2006-12-17 07:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET GO AND LET GOD........it's a learning experience...you have learned it the hard way......let it go and get on with your life..do you really think he is caring about you right now???NOOOOOOOO.......forgive & forget.....goodluck
2006-12-17 07:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i say break his knee caps and do a bobbit on him. that should make you feel better. hehehe...
2006-12-17 07:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by That's A Lot of Nonsense 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋