I used to wait until we were exclusive to tell men that I'm a virgin but when I tell them they seem to get really interested in me....in a weird way. Should I tell a guy in the first couple of dates so I don't lead him on or should I just wait till we get to know each other better?
2006-12-17 07:10:23 · 16 answers · asked by Wyst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do plan on staying one until I'm married
2006-12-17 07:17:46 · update #1
Hi,
Yeah, that "wierd way" you mention is because, to a man, the ultimate prize is a woman that's never been with anyone else. That means they have extra confidence because it's easy for them to be the "best you've ever had".
If ya' ask me, I'd say, tell him if you think he's getting serious enough to want intimacy. Otherwise, keep it to yourself. The reason for that is, a guy that was once "just a date" will automatically change gears to get his hands on "the ultimate prize". The problem with that is, that may be all he wants and will end up breaking your heart once he's had his way.
2006-12-17 07:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by zosofan59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not a good idea, being a guy, I can tell you that, that will be the only thing on our minds. The time to say something is when you both are in bed for the first time doing what two humanbeings do best.
Make sure he's just not after your body, the longer he waits the better. Have you seen 40 year old virgin? Same thing only reverse it.
2006-12-17 15:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men like the challenge of deflowering a virgin thats where the excitement comes from. but some dont want to deal with the whole issue all together you know having to wait sex shouldnt be brought up unless you feel the relationship hasnt gotten up to that point or if he asks how many guys have you been with just be honest then and tell him; none. A guys reaction can also give you signs if he is worth pursuing a relationship with too.
2006-12-17 15:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman of mystery is very interesting. Never volunteer information about your personal things. If a guy asks tell him it is not any of his business and then walk away. The suspense of not knowing is much hotter than the desire to defile virgins. Meanwhile read as much about sex as you can so that you will completely blow a guy's mind when the right guy comes along. Remember always keep him waiting and always leave him wanting more!
2006-12-17 15:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to tell him that you are a virgin. You are just dating and having fun, and sex is not on you list to do unless you and him are dating to have sex. If it's just meeting and having fun with a guy, you need not to tell him you are a virgin. That subject should not be in the conversation in the first place.
But make sure you don't lead him on. Let him know if dating you would lead to sex or not. That way, you and him both know what you and him are getting in to. Best of luck.
2006-12-17 15:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Inquisit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear UCBL. Any guy whom you date should respect you and have high standards. You will probably find out soon if they are after just sex or want a lasting relationship with the goal of marriage. Your first date will help establish your common interests. You will probably know if your interest in each other will grow. Unfortunately, in today's world, most males lack respect for females, and regard them as tools to use for their own selfish pleasure. You can see evidence of this in all the media. Good luck finding your soulmate! Paul (rascoep@yahoo.com)
2006-12-17 15:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Paulus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell a guy that you are virgin, unless you want to stop being one. And that should be with a guy you care about and that you want to be with. Otherwise, guys only motive to be with you is to nail you. In about four weeks, you should decide whether not you should keep seeing a guy....if you are not interested then dump the guy.....but do it gently. Doing things that way, instead of telling you are a virgin will stop guys from only wanting to you be with you for being a virgin.
2006-12-17 15:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should tell them a ******* thing. Guys have a complex when a girl tells them they are a virgin. They think that they are the teacher all of a sudden. They want to leave a lasting impression on you and thus they try to rush into the sexual aspects of the relationship.
2006-12-17 15:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait tell you know the guy before you tell him that ur a virgin. Guys love virgins so by telling a guy that u are in the first couple of days there are more likely gonna become intersted in you jus beacuse they wanna be your first. everyguy want to be a femals first
2006-12-17 15:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by drama dramz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell men that you are a virgin until you are ready. But you should, i guess you could say, drop hints that you still have your virginity.
2006-12-17 15:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by live2dance91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋