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2006-12-17 06:49:53 · 17 answers · asked by Makoa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was a my b/f's house, and his mom came home. She came in, and we were sleeping in eachother's arms. We both had "undergarments" on. She Quietly woke him and told him to wake me. He did and I was soooooooooooo embarassed. All she wanted to know was were we having safe sex, and when we said yes, she was ok with it.Should she have been mad?? We are 16. Is this a normal reaction??She says she is ok with us having sex b/c of my "past". (I was raped, not by her son, but an old friend). What does that have to do with anything?? Does she think it will make it hard for me to have sex??
why do parents assume "undergarments" , where his hands were on her, and the fact that they were sleeping in the same bed means sex??
If you saw your son feeling a girl up would you scold him?? Or just let it go??
2006-12-17 06:51:41 · update #1
it depends on the mother's relationship with her son...some have very understanding relationships so if your child is going to do it they might as well do it the safe way...it shouldn't be a regular thing but better safe than sorry
2006-12-17 07:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by tcb_2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay, all these people are bitches because they just say "No Datails" to get 2 points!
Well, I think that the reaction of the parent may depend on THEIR past. If they didnt like the way their parents reacted, they might want to make it easier on you all. Then again, it might be possible that she really doesnt give a damn as long as its safe. Maybe shes feeling bad for you because you were raped (srry to hear that). There are many reasons why she acted like that. maybe she saw the chemistry rising, and knew it was going to happen sooner or latter. Maybe she really likes you and thinks that if her son is with anyone, shes happy its you and is going to show that approvell through giving you freedom. Being 16 though...I would expect a reaction such as this for maybe 18, but if she thinks you are very wise, she may not care.
I hope the answer helped.
2006-12-17 15:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dominique-Duh! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WoW....I had the same thing happen to me when I was 16! My boyfriends mom barged in his room and I was scared to death.(we weren't in anything or sleeping at the time ; ).
She sat right at the foot of his bed and starting chatting with us!!She then,got up asked if we were being safe and put a tie on his doorknob and informed us to use the tie in the future so she doesn't walk in on us ever again....I still can't understand that behavior in a parent..My mom would've freaked!And then some..
I have 3 kids now and i guess i don't know how I'll react,but I sure hope I never EVER have to react! *I kinda wonder if it's a "mother+son" thing??Cause parents usually would let their son get away with that,but not their daughters....or so I've heard. ~Cool question....Thanks : )
2006-12-17 15:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Terra Antares 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old son and hope I am never in this situation. I think it would all depend on our relationship. I plan on being really open with my son so that he is not scared to ask me any questions. So I hope that he would be able to talk to me about the big decision before anything happens so that I know that he is really using the correct head to think about it. I guess I will have to see what happens when my son hit that age. I hope that this is at least a little help.
2006-12-17 15:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by kort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my son wants to have sex he's going to have sex. All I can truly do is educate him on being safe. Teenagers are teenagers, they find a way around things if they want to do something badly enough. I do not believe in sheltering my child, I would prefer to educate him in a way that would allow him to make mature and responsible decisions. For example, he won't want to have sex simply because his friends are but rather, he will feel that he is ready and truly cares about the person. Luckily he's only 11.5 months so I've got awhile.
I will give him privacy and respect that, and in turn he will be expected to respect me and not make me uncomfortable, such as feeling up a girl in front of me.
2006-12-17 16:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by kimmp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were the mom.. i would have scold her son and the girl and send her home.. because it was too young and making the trust the kid.. and does his parents know you been rape...( i am sorry about you getting rape..) but you must go on.. Hope he this guy is not player.. who just using you.. You should trust that person before you sleep with him... and get to know him before other stuff goes on in your life... But most parents should be mad.. about it...
2006-12-17 14:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my house I wouldn't allow any of the mentioned activity simply because I think it's disrespectful to the parents. I also think it's also disrespectful that your b/f put you in this situation (like you said, you were embarrassed), and if it were reversed, vice versa. Respect has simply gone by the wayside. (Have you sought counseling for your rape? I'm sorry & wish you the best.)
2006-12-17 15:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by californya_girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was your mother you would be grounded til your 30. noone has sex in my house but me. when you are grown and on your on then you can do what you want. you would have no pc no tv no phone calls no dating no fun period until further notice. to church anf home and school and home. i dont play
2006-12-17 15:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i caught my son and his girlfriend sleeping, that's one thing, but they better have their clothes on. and hell no i would under no circumstance think it was ok for them to have sex in my house, protected or not.
2006-12-17 15:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i'd boot cha out on the streets in just your undies.
2006-12-17 14:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋