why no kids?

Question

i don't mean to be effencive to those who do not want children but i was just wondering why don't you and what do you plan on doing later in life? im 26 years old and pregnant with my fourth in my personal opnion i cannot imagine a life without children

Answer 1

Your 26 with your fourth child on the way and cannot spell offensive - good luck with teaching your children to spell

I do not want kids which is my personal choice. I want to see the world which will be impossible with kids in tow

Everyone to their own

Answer 2

I do not want children and I cant really explain where the desire comes from. I have always felt this way, since I was little. Its just this feeling Ive had where I know I couldnt feel comfortable pushing a pram or changing nappies. It has just never appealed. Its not that I hate children, I just dont see the good side to it.
People often get upset and think Im odd when I tell them this as I am a 21 yr old female, but theyll have to deal with it. Not everyone wants the same things in life. Its as simple as that!
I think a some things put me off more than others, for me the best part of having a child would be seeing how much and in what way they resembled you. The things that put me off are being pregnant (definitely not, no way, never!) as it seems so painful and awkward, then giving birth for obv. reasons! But I just wouldnt want to have something for 18 yrs that completely owned my life. I dont really feel the desire to have kids, so why do it?

Answer 3

I have every respect for people that do not want children. I know quite a few women who have made this decision. That is their choice. Not every woman is maternal in any way.

I don't regret having my child., but it would not have bothered me one way or the other.

What I do regret though is the world that she has been born into.
The future for today's children is less secure that it was for their parents and grand parents.

They leave further education with debts up to their ears. They will be expected to make mandatory payments into Pension Schemes no matter how big or small their wages are. 2 or 3% from a small wage is a heck of a lot of money. They will be expected to work into their 70s to pay for today's Pension Black holes.

I suppose this could birth control in a way. People won't be able to afford to have children at all.

The government and companies are to blame for this. One for taking the excess from the Pensions and the other for taking Contribution breaks.

The list goes on and on.

Answer 4

yes you do tend to be offensive don't you?

there are cliches by the number why a question like this shouldn't come up. Shakespeare wrote "there are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy". then there is "walk a mile in my shoes".

my life was ruined by many people when i was young.
alcohol played a part, other peoples' ego played a major part. there were times when i had no recourse but to submit to other more powerful beings' idiosyncrasies. those were the times when i leaned hate. there were times when drunk people were making important decisions for my life. these are only the tip of an ice berg.

after watching how alcohol and other elements ruined and endangered my life, i decided that i sure wouldn't want to be responsible for even the chance that i'd make somebody else feel that kind of misery.

and have you looked at the rate of populace lately, what 7 billion and counting? what did you get your offspring into?

Answer 5

Some people consciously choose to not have children for their own personal reasons.Some people are childless due to the fact they cannot get pregnant due to medical conditions and/or infertility.Having children is a very personal choice in most cases.It is unfortunate that all the people who have children do not necessarily mean they will be good parents.Be happy with your children and love them . Your question may not be offensive but it could appear insensitive to those who have never been able to have a baby but would love to.

Answer 6

Well, it's a big world out there and there are quite a lot of things you can do with your life other than having children. In fact so much that one lifetime is not enough. I have a child (and I'm not having another one) and i don't rely on my child to have something to do later on in life! Population growth is a real issue these days so not having children is a real considerate and educated thing to do. Adoption should be encouraged!

Answer 7

I think everyone has their own ideas of a perfect life. You love your kids and being with the family.. Some people may love traveling around the world with their partner and can't see having kids and settling down in one place...

As far as what people do later in life without kids.. um.. you can do a lot of things besides raising children.. it's not everything. How about a career, retire at 45 and move to the Bahamas..

Answer 8

Some people prefer not to have rat races in life. One of the fastest ways to loose your mind is a life with no disposable income nor free time.

Some people just find life more exciting when you can live on your own accord. When you have x number of mouths to feed, cloth and take care of that goal becomes a little harder.

Last but not least America is no longer a society based on agriculture so you technically don't need kids to sustain your life from a survival perspective.

Answer 9

I have a son,unplanned. Up until that point I was never having children but this felt right. I love my son to death and can't imagine life without him. I do, however, recognize that life would be much simpler without him and I do understand why some people choose not to have children. I'm assuming that they plan to enjoy their lives without children. Kids are great, but they don't have to be everything.

Answer 10

Some people just don't make good parents and choose not to have children and that's for the best. There are enough abused children in this world. Some people choose not to have children because they are self centered and only think of themselves and that is for the best too. They wouldn't make good parents either. I have seen some who chose not to have children and had a baby by accident and really changed their minds about babies and had more than one. These make good parents. Life without children can be a lonely life when one gets old and has no one. They have a lot of material things but what good is that? They don't even have a child to leave all their material things to or a grandchild to love.

Answer 11

Hello,

To have children in my opinion is either a sheer accident (Oops! darling by the way I missed my last period) or a purely selfish choice. When I say selfish I dont mean that in a negative way either but I think people choose to have children in a conscious way. Its your choice to have children, however the opposite choice can also apply.

**Dont get me wrong I love children dearly, & I've done quite abit of child care myself in the past. Looked after tiny babies upto pre teens,etc. I just like & appreciate & enjoy other people's children & babies but I just dont want the responsability that comes with children.

**On a personal level I'm single and have been for many years & it takes me all my time & energy just to care for & look after myself let alone a partner or children.

**Most of the time I like the freedom & sense of choice I have as a single person. I can just please myself, yes! you might argue that this is pretty selfish but then I would argue back that its no more selfish than choosing to have children. One isnt better than the other morally or ethically.

**To me what really matters, is that if you choose to have children please have children because not only do you want them for yourselves but most of all because you have love to give them.

I dont think there can be anything worse than being brought into this life by parents that dont care & dont love you (the child).

**Children should be created out of love and loved when they arrive, otherwise dont have children.

**I have 100% no illusions that being a parent is one of the most tough jobs ever.

IR