I am so paranoid about my new girlfriend either cheating on me and guys hitting on her. Shes a very good looking cheerleader. Of course shes going to get looked at. But she promises she wont cheat or hurt me. Its just my thoughts gets the best of me, makes me depressed. And it sucks. I am not the type to keep asking her where she is and who sha can't hang out with. But i am the type to worry so much over stuff thats prply never going to happen. How do i stop these thoughts? And how can i stop thinking negative!
2006-12-17 06:34:44 · 3 answers · asked by eighty dee 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ok - get a grip.
Do some serious thinking about self-esteem issues.
Do you not feel "worthy" of female attention? good looking female?
What are you afraid of most? That she'll wake up and leave you?
Write down crazy thought you have about this situaiton.
It's important that you understand exactly what about this relationship or woman is making you insexure or uncomfortable?
Do you have a history of failed relationships? Cheating? Cheated on?
Is she more active than you? Does she do more and have more of a social life than you? If so, you need to find things that will occupy your mind.
What are your personal hopes and dreams? Why aren't you pursuing them now, on Sunday afternoon?
When you get into a relationship you can't lose sight of yourself and your dreams. You can't expect this relationship to be all things. You were fine before you met her and will be fine when she leaves (if you keep up the paranoia)!
Do something positive for yourself. Take a walk, get a drink of water, pet a dog, call an old friend, get some emotional support.
If you believe in herbal support/ flower essences - Bach Rescue remedy (vitaminshoppe) is a good one for crises. Valerian root and shankpushpi will also calm you down. Exercise is also a great one.
Best of luck!
2006-12-17 06:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by staya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know im the same with my boyfriend you just gotta stop and get over it cuz he knows when i think like this and the only thing it does is make him upset because he says he isnt going to hurt me....But there really isnt just one way to stop i just try to keep my mind busy....
2006-12-17 14:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by He_sEnT_Me-mY-AnGeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a rubber band around your wrist and every time you have these thoughts pop the rubber band so you wont think these thoughts because they are accociated with pain LOL you just need to trust your girlfriend and if she cheats on you then screw her she lost a great person dont worry about it to much have some trust if she is a good person she wont even think about cheating on you!!!
2006-12-17 14:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋