I've been going out with my fiance for 3 years now (we're both 20),but I've been a paraplegic for one of those years since my accident. I'm paralyzed from the abdomen down. Since my accident, she has changed a lot and i think she really truly hates me now. Like she smashed cake in my face at my birthday party when I said I was hungry and she has dumped water on my head when I ask for a glass of water. Last night she said that I wasn't a real man anymore because I'm a paraplegic, and she said she didn't want to go out with a half-man, half-wheelchair. She didn't used to be like that and I love her so much; I want things to be like before. She said that she would leave me but that would mean she would have to move back in with her parents and she doesn't want to do that. How can I make her love me again??? Thanks so much.
2006-12-17 06:24:03 · 35 answers · asked by thebestmusicvideo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to be with a biooootch like that??
2006-12-17 06:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by emilytraci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, your current girlfriend may or may not have a point. Consider this: how would you feel if your current girlfriend was spending some time with an ex boyfriend? Even if you would think it is okay she does not, and part of loving a person is considering what makes them feel uncomfortable and doing the opposite. Changing and doing things that another person likes does not necessarily mean that you are changing who you are; it just means that you are taking another persons feelings, likes, or dislikes into consideration. (Normally when in a relationship such as this, this is the case) My advice: Limit your contact with your ex girlfriend. Your ex girlfriend is in your past and your current girlfriend is your present. Am not saying or suggesting you should dismiss your ex girlfriend altogether but your ex should be treated the same way you would treat another guy friend. (it should strictly just be friendship from afar; given the history you guys have with one another.) Hope things work out, and I hope this advice helped.
2016-05-23 02:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm - without trying to be harsh - why would you want to MAKE her love you again? Clearly, she respects you so much that she shoves your face into a cake or the other way around and treats you so well that she saves you money by pouring water over you so you can not only drink it, but wash your face free of the cake at the same time...
Don't be afraid of being alone. Dump the *****. No one deserves to be treated like that or spoken to like she has to you.
There are plenty of people that would love you as you and not as a man with his own personal set of wheels. It might be hard at this time of the year, do you have friends you can be with or talk to?
If I were you, save your money that you would spend on her over christmas and go and book yourself a great holiday instead or a cruise. Good luck and remember, you're worth a million of her. I'd not have her if you paid me :)
2006-12-17 07:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.........MR. T.B.M.V...........As a Viet-Nam veteran I've seen guys in situations much similar to your own, I'm very sorry for your accident. Looking over the answers you have already are pretty much what you'd expect from here, I'm not going to do that to you friend. Since I have a better handle on something like this.............no pulled punches..........just facts you may not like too well. This behavior of hers will probably only get worse, so please don't fool yourself into thinking that there's greener grass when things get to normal...............for you...........this is about as normal as it's going to get. My guess would be that most everything will slowly go down hill. I don't think she hates you, she does hate what's happened to you. Before the accident, you were her MAN, she was beginning to build her life around you, nice house, white picket fence, two cat's( or dogs) in the yard, 2.2 kids in the house......the good ole American Dream. For her............that's all gone..........that's what she's mad at. It hurts me to have to fill you in on all the cold facts that are more than likely in your future. To read your question, It doesn't seen that you're ready to start accepting these things that might go the opposite way than what you're hoping for. If you were a vet, you'd be get the best of counseling right now, your heart wouldn't be breaking, the deppression you're feeling wouldn't be so hard on you. I'm afraid, that instead of this torment your going through, you and her had better sit down and see how the other is really feeling. It's not going to be easy by any stretch of the imagination, but there's no sence for you to take the water or cake. Wouldn't it be better knowing how things stand now, than letting this drag out......PRAYERS.........LATER
2006-12-17 07:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by veteranpainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is making this seem like its about her. Im sure you dont like the fact that you had an accident,,,but you cant change that. She sounds pathetic to me,,if her love changed for you then she never loved you to begin with. Get rid of her ***. Kick her out first before she can make another decision whether she wants to stay or go. If she doesnt want to live with her parents thats tough **** for her. She is just using you and you deserve ALOT better treatment from someone whos going to love you no matter what.
2006-12-17 06:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok why would you want a woman that doesn't truly love you even in the circumstances that you are in. She is with you just because she doesn't want to go to her parents home, what kind of person does that. I dont understand, plz find yourself someone who will love you for who you are no matter what circumstances you are in. That is very rude throwing cake, and water at you. I know you love her a lot but she obiously doesn't love you and how do you know she isnt seeing other men. Good luck with everything
2006-12-17 06:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Aby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very selfish towards you. Why do you want a woman that treats you like that? My brother is a paraplegic and he gets more women than most of his friends. Let her go and make her stupid *** go back to mommy.
2006-12-17 06:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Radio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god you poor thing!
well maybe your not the only one who misses you freedom, like many relationships you just "take days off" but in your case she would feel bad if she took a day for herself! so you could try to plan a day our two were you were with you friends/family, and she was with hers! but seriously she should take it easy on you!! well i do have another suggestion.....maybe try to make things in your house hold "your" height like cups and plates so when your thirsty you can get water or maybe help her around the house sometimes (if you can, i don't know how bad the pain is) but yeah maybe just try to be independent when you can!
but yes back to her story
how come you let her hurt your feelings like that? is it really your fult that your paralized?? she sounds like she want you for something because like you said she's only not leaving because if she did she'd have to move back in with her parents! well what's with that?
ok well good luck hope things get better and you guys can work it out! ♥
2006-12-17 06:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt be treated like that.its not ur fault that u r the way u r. if she doesnt want to move back in with her parents then that is her problem.kick her out!! she sounds mean. make her do something she doesnt want to do(move in with her parents) and maybe she will learn to appriciate u more. give her a taste of her own words.Good luck and Happy holidays!
2006-12-17 06:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by brit_09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Preserve your dignity and leave her. You do not deserve to be treated any less because of uncontrolled circumstances. Don't judge people based on their past - even if it was a good one. You are seeing her true colors now, so I suggest you learn to get over her and find someone who is worth your time.
2006-12-17 06:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nina Abb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could talk to her and tell her how much you still feel for her. but then again, if someone did that to me, i would be leaving that person. she shouldnt stay if she isnt happy, i know that really isnt what you want to hear, but it sounds like you are a nice guy and your still young, so you could do a lot better than her!!! good luck with everything, trust your instincts, and remember there is someone out there for everyone.
2006-12-17 06:32:33 · answer #11 · answered by lora 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋