Ok, so i have a boyfriend, and we've been goin out for like a month and a half now. It;s been great. But, after two weeks after we went out, i realized that his exgirlfriend was one of my really close friends. I have been feeling really guilty. I seriously didnt realize that it was her until two weeks afetr we started going out. NOW, i feel SOO guilty. Should i break up with him? Or what should i do? IM SO CONFUSED! please help!
2006-12-17 06:13:07 · 19 answers · asked by blahh123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up with him- you've only been dating him a mere 6 weeks. There's not a long history to worry about.
2006-12-17 06:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is already part of your boyfriend's past. What benefit would it do if you give up your relationship? Would it make your bf think and realize that his ex deserves him better than you? Or would it make your bf think that you are the type who's not willing to defend your relationship?
Where's the guilt coming from? I assume you didn't steal something from her. Wasn't it her ex bf who approached you and asked you to go out with him?
Just make sure you're not being used by the guy to make his ex jealous about you.
Before getting too involved, focus on determining how this guy is sincere about your relationship with him rather than thinking of other matters that doesn't really have anything to do with both of you.
2006-12-17 14:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Solomon Grundy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to figure out wen did they go out n if it wus less than two years ago than u should talk to both of them n let them know how guilty u feel. But also if she is really like a best friend than maybe u need to start gettn to kmow her better n the boys that she have dated.
2006-12-17 14:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by dagirl10149 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said friends in past tense.. If shes not a friend anymore then why do u care?? Also if she is ur friend, talk to her about it and explain. It is ex girlfriend so it was over when you started going out.. Its ok dont feel bad if you like him! x
2006-12-17 14:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and tell her the truth, that you didn't realize he was her ex. Communication is the key. Don't let things confuse you, just go talk to her and get her take on it. Then you can make your decision. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-17 14:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They broke up. He has moved on. Perhaps she has too. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
If you two are enjoying each other's company, enjoy it as much as you can. For all you know, your friend may already be aware of the situation.
2006-12-17 14:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how she feels. If she says to break it up then forget about it and go out with him if you truly like him.
2006-12-17 14:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through this situation with my brother and my ex. when we broke up, my brother tried to hook up with her. What I would do is sit down and talk to your friend. See what she thinks about. It all depends on whether or not they split up on good terms. Hope this helps!
2006-12-17 14:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by everylastonegone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her the truth and if shes not ok with with tell her that her friendship is more important to you than any guy.and break up with him.
2006-12-17 14:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her first and if she's upset about you dating him then dump him because no guy is worth losing a friend over!
2006-12-17 14:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Cay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋