I am married and want to have children, but can't naturally. We are saving money to eventually either adopt or have a baby through surrogacy, but in the meantime I thought it would be a great thing to open our home to a foster child needing a family. I am looking for anyones opinions or experiences in this area, Thanks!
2006-12-17 05:33:17 · 5 answers · asked by mandaj17 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
As I sit and hold my 10 week old foster son, I can tell you that it is the most rewarding thing I have ever done. It isn't an easy job, but parenting isn't easy. There are a lot of challenges and a lot of people in the child's life (social workers, bio parents, foster parents, visitation counselors, etc) Knowing that we are making a difference is wonderful,although the last child we had did have to go home. He was 10 months old. Email me if you have more questions. Go for it!!! wanirose21@yahoo.com
2006-12-21 03:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by what's up dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in foster care for ten years and I am very grateful for the good families that took care of me for part of that time. Things to keep in mind are the fact that you could foster to adopt, meaning you take in foster children and care for them with the plan to send them back to their parents if they can get their situation straightened out or, if they do not, you could adopt the children. Also, some people adopt only or foster only from the foster care system. I think it is a great thing to do and while you will hear bad things about foster kids and some of them are true, a lot of the horror stories you hear are overblown or people's false assumptions about the system.
2006-12-19 00:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that when you are fostering, the child can end up being adopted by you in time which is wonderful but also, the child may go back to his original blood family in time. If that happens, you may be hurt because you would be attached to the child.
I support the fact that you would open up your home to kids in need. That is a wonderful decision but make sure you know what you are getting yourself into with fostering.
Adoption is also great. Just be sure that you dont get your hopes up because mothers often change their mind about giving up their newborns. Please also remember that there are older children who need to be loved and adopted as well. So dont forget about them.
2006-12-17 09:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Brey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and his brothers and sister were in foster care when they were young. being a foster parent is hard. many of these children have been living under very bad circumstance and they often have "issues". i mean, they are in foster care for a reason. my hubby has said that he like there foster family, but they were very strict. they had a certain time to eat and the lady locked up the food. things like that. however, foster care was way better than what they were living with.
2006-12-17 05:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fostering is a lottery, you might get attached to the child and be hurt when they are taken away or you might get hard times and sorry for what you ask.
2006-12-21 00:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by bigonegrande 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋