He hasn't called me in 4 days he says he's stressed out b/c of finals and everything. Last night we finally met on aim. i asked are we good? He said of course. Then i asked some random things. Then i asked what are the things stressing you out, does it include us?He said, partly, i was sorting of stressing him out. So i said we are not good after all. He says he guesses not. I'm so confused b/c he changed his answer in 5 mins. He says he always doesn't know what he wants and he can't keep changing his mind and screw us both. He's been trying to see the future with us but he can't. I'm ready to let him go for a while, like a month, but i wonder if there's a chance he'll come back. B/c like he said, he doesnt know what he wants and he always changes his mind(we broke up 3 times in a year but always came back). But this time i am not gonna beg him to take me back like i did before. but i'm still wondering if sometimes it's true for a couple to take time off to be back together.Plz help me
2006-12-17 04:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been through this also..my boyfriend would also be confused about us, and used to change his mind a lot..we were on and off for like 3 years, till the last time we broke up..i decided not to beg and try to make it work, so i simply moved on..i stopped the phonecalls the chatting online, and try to keep myself occupied..it was hurting me, but i figured i'd rather get over it then to be in a relationship that was an emotional rollercoaster .. fortunately for me it turned out for the better..two months later he got in contact with me and try to get back with me, i played hard to get, but i still love him so we got back together a month later, everything is so muche better now.. so my advice is, a little break wont hurt, it will also give u time to see if being with him is what u really want, trust me once u are out of a long term relationship, u see things differently, you get a little wiser and u learn to control and understand your feelings a little more..i hope it helps
2006-12-17 04:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by drg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, it appears that you are quizzing him about your relationship quite often. Your boyfriend told you that he was stressed over his finals, and you added to it by bombarding him with other questions. When you asked him "we are not good after all", you were telling him that the two of you were not good. So, he agreed. Stop begging for a relationship. Insecurity is a huge turnoff.
I once had a guy constantly ask about our relationship. He asked how I felt, if I was okay with it, blah blah blah. His insecurity led to our breakup.
If I had not have wanted to be with him, I wouldn't have been.
I didn't go back with him again because I knew that he wouldn't change.
2006-12-17 05:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think breaking up and hoping to get back together is the key. What I think you need to do is just give him his space for a couple of days and let him worry about his finals. Then talk to him, not necessarily about you and him, but just ask him how he's doing and really be there for him.
2006-12-17 04:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by deppfreak6963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know what they say sweetie if you love something or someone let it go if it comes back then its your thats so true and the way i see it if he wants to be apart let him go its probalayry his loss anyways, and you deserve so much more than that and the whole stressed out thing thats just a excuse he cant even be man enough to tell you why he wants to be single so let him go girl and find someone else, remeber no man is worth your tears and the one is wont make you cry.. good luck and merry christmas
2006-12-17 04:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sweetie it is cuase even though he dosen't no what he wants right now iy sound like he still may like u alot cause i have been through the same problem before so don't worry things will work out u just have to give it some time trust me sweetie do u have a yahoo id cause i will talk 2 u about it if u want????????
2006-12-17 04:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun...if you brokeup 3 times in a year and went back...guess what..you're in a relationship out of convenience.
Leave it be...find YOURSELF first...then start dating OTHERS.
Just be you and worry about yourself first.
When you know who YOU are..then you can become involved in someone else's life.
Go Enjoy Yourself During the Holidays!!!
2006-12-17 04:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you should just move on with out him because he obviously he doesn't want to be with you. MOVE ON. There are plenty good men out there.
2006-12-17 05:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by miss_peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him ..he is a sleazeball..anyone who breaks up with a girl a week before xmas is scum.
2006-12-17 04:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not posible
trust me
2006-12-17 04:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Fallen_ AngeL♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋