i mean, she hardly ever wants to have sex, so i may have to resort to desperate measures!
2006-12-17 04:32:15 · 28 answers · asked by Brian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its just a thought, and we all have them
2006-12-17 04:35:05 · update #1
ok i am not gonna do it, thank you all! i will talk to my g/f about it and see what happens, heck maybe she beat me to it lol
2006-12-17 04:51:26 · update #2
Why don't you try TALKING to her and quit thinking about YOUR needs. Maybe there is some reason she "hardly wants to have sex." Yes it is WRONG to have an affair. It will scar her for life when she finds out, and trust me, she will find out. So before you go do anything stupid, think about how she will feel. Or better yet, think of how you would feel if she did it to you. When you are in a relationship, you should always think how the other person will be affected by your actions. And this goes for her too. She is withholding sex, which in turn makes you want to have an affair. My fiance cheated on me for the same reason your are about to cheat, and of he would have just talked to me I would have told him that I was not comfortable with my body( I just had a baby) and I needed a little encouragement from him. It would have saved me a lot of heart ache and rage, and saved him a happy relationship. See, you guys need to talk it out. And please, don't cheat.
2006-12-17 04:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well having those thoughts about affairs is natural but never good so as long as you dont act on it you should be fine and well having an affair is not going to make anything with you and her better so unless you literally want to end things or screw up anything you two may have then yea wipe that solution off the list of things you can do...maybe try talking to her about it and seeing whats up and well let her know that yoru human and a guy so you have needs...mayebe somethings bumming her or maybe she isnt realizing the strain she is having on you I guess the key is talking.....sex relieves stress therefor it is always something good in a relationship and well its also one point to a healthy relationship but remember dont be too demanding because there is more to life and to relationships then sex...yes more important things!! and well there is another alternative .... maybe not be the most enjoyable but Im pretty sure the internet supplys a huge range of sexual release tools ;) ASIDE FROM MEETING SOMEONE ELSE THO!!
and well if you cant ressolve things even afte talking too her maybe it would be best to break up and then go for someone who you believe will satisfy your needs which IM not saying is the best or easiest way but its better then cheating!! ANYDAY, hands down......
Good luck talking!
2006-12-17 12:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by shy_chick4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we don't all have them. Some of us consider fighting for the relationship rather than sabotaging it. God, that irritates me. If you're a schmuck, then just own up to it. Don't drag down the rest of the human race to your level and believe we'd all do the same in your situation. Own your reactions, sheesh.
Now that being said, try couples therapy. If that doesn't work, get a divorce. You CAN be single if you want to be. No person (man or woman) deserves to have a partner secretly break their marriage vows and sh-it all over the life they share. Fix it...or leave it. Don't sh-it on it on your way out.
2006-12-17 12:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Brianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for the sake of your relationship, you should get out before cheating. She'll never have trust for you again. Talk with her about the lack of sex. I'm a girl, the only time I stopped having sex with someone was because I was cheating. Just a thought.
2006-12-17 12:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Melyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you are unhappy in the relationship - be man enough to tell her and then get out. Affairs are the coward's way out. It relieves you of any guilt because she will end things when you get caught. That lets you off the hook - but lots of people are hurt in the process. Do the right thing and tell her if you are not happy.
2006-12-17 12:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try and talk to her first. If you are married it is not a good idea to have an affair. Try explaining things to her first before doing anything. And if you resort to an affair I would leave her don't cheat. It is better to be honest
2006-12-17 12:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel, ask her if you can help her get help. Make sure she understands that if she doesn't even try to get help with this or this situation does not improve for you that you are going to leave her (preferably) or cheat on her. Then she can make an educated decision.
2006-12-17 12:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its very very very wrong, sex doesnt mean everything, and maybe there are reasons why she doesnt want sex, if sex is all you think about and you want to cheat then you shouldnt be with her, if you care about her feelings and you love her cheating would be the last thing on your mind, but speak to her because there should be reasons such as kids - sex has gone dull - you aint making her feel special - shes cheating on you! - she feels unwanted... anything
2006-12-17 12:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brian----How would you feel if you learned she was cheating on you because you worked too many hours and were away too long? Discuss this with her and let her know your true feelings and if she seems insensitive to your needs let her know exactly how important having your sexual needs met are.Defiantly time to talk about 'things.'
2006-12-17 12:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jack off. Buy a Jenna Jamerson toy.
If you are miserable, leave. If you aren't ready for that, go to couples therapy. Talk to her about it all. Romance her.
But, don't cheat. Have more ethics than that.
2006-12-17 12:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋