I'm a little wierded out. Just the other day, I decided to change my cell number because the one I recently got was recieving too many sales calls. Long story short, I tried calling the companies to make them stop but they didn't. So, I text messaged everyone on my cell (all at once) saying that "I changed my number, heres the updated number". Then, I recieve a phonecall from my piano teacher and he says "Is everything ok? Oh, I'm here at a restaurant called Cheese Cake Factory, have you been here before?" I replied, "Yea, it's pretty good." Then he asks me, "Maybe we should come here sometime." Ummm...ok....that made me feel wierd. To me, I thought that was crossing the boundary between teacher and student. You don't ask your students to go out and eat. A side note, plus he told me at my last piano lesson that he wants to get a divorce w/ his wife. I'm feeling very awkward now, and it really interferes w/ me wanting to learn piano!
2006-12-17 04:25:54 · 23 answers · asked by bettyboop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't say how old you are, although it doesn't really matter because it definitely sounds as though your teacher is putting out feelers to see whether you might be interested in seeing him outside of the recital room. It probably would have been harmless if he'd just suggested going to the Cheesecake Factory sometime, but when combined with his "sharing" personal information with you about his intention to divorce his wife, it's not only inappropriate, but creepy.
If you are under 18, please talk to one of your parents or someone at your music school about this. I'd focus on the personal nature of his having told you that he wants to divorce his wife, then add that the invitation to dine with him made you uncomfortable.
There are plenty of talented piano teachers out there, and this guy doesn't deserve to be teaching you!
Good luck!!
2006-12-17 04:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by bluestocking1967 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you under 18? If you are-he's a TOTAL perv,creep and pedophile-and you need to let an appropriate adult know.If you are older than 18-it does sound like he is hitting on you-especially with the divorce comment. If he is making you uncomfortable- find another piano teacher NOW!
2006-12-17 04:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your respective ages but I'm guessing you're in your teens and he's older (old enough to be married... and possibly divorcing).
Whether he was hitting on you or not or just trying to be nice, what he did was inappropriate. Equally inappropriate was his mentioning ay plans to get a divorce. Tell your parents that, while he hasn't done anything wrong, his behavior is making you feel uncomfortable.
Maybe he's just a nice man who is feeling the emotional strain of his failing marriage. That's fine... but he shouldn't be confiding in you! Assuming, for his benefit, that he is COMPLETELY innocent of knowingly acting inappropriately, he's still interfering with your ability to learn piano... something your parents are paying for! So, at the very least, the issue should be addressed on those grounds.
2006-12-17 04:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by gooniekim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I does look like he's hitting on you, just tell him that your not intrested and find another teacher, what seperates a good teacher from the bad is the line between professional teaching and not crossing the line (even if the teacher does like you). Thats what makes a professional teacher and it doesn't look like he's being very profesional, anyways don't just jump to conclusions find out for yourself if he really does like you once your 100% sure then make your action.
2006-12-17 04:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why, you could get free piano lessons out of the deal... play it for all it's worth sister! hahahahah
actually, if he's getting a divorce, he may just be hitting on every female that comes his way, or calls his cell phone, in an effort to rebound and get back on his feet, you know to feel comfortable hitting on girls again. it may just be practice for him. I wouldn't take it to personal. I don't know how old you are but, as a female you should be able to have guys hit on you and turn them down without batting an eyelash... no big deal.
2006-12-17 04:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feelings. You can go two ways on this; maybe he's just a nice guy, if tat's the case, then just be professional and keep the conversations to piano and music.
Or you could let your parents know and see where they take it from there. You are in an awkward situation, good luck.
2006-12-17 04:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by The Face 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would suggest getting another piano teacher because you are always going to feel uncomfortable around him even if he doesn't make a move. why wait for something to happen when you can get rid of the problem now.
2006-12-17 04:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it doesn't mean something more, if you think that there might be something, or you are uncomfortable you shouldn't stay in that situation and you should definitely switch piano teachers.
2006-12-17 04:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by deppfreak6963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he asked you to go to the Cheesecake Factory you should have said "Thanks for the offer but I don't think it's appropriate". If you're still feeling uncomfortable then switch teachers asap. If you recognize that there is a problem and you don't do anything about it, you are no longer a victim- you're a choser! So get out while you can.
2006-12-17 04:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by REinBB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! your piano teachers a freak. just switch piano teachers fast
2006-12-17 04:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋