I am 18 years old, my ex was 19 and would be 20 this month. We both go to the same college. During his freshman year (6 months ago) he ended up doing poorly receiving less than a 1.0 gpa on a 4.0 scale. He eventually got put on acadmeic probation and could not sign up for classes.
Most people would have gotten a job during this time of lack of school, but no, not him, he decided not to work or go to school for 6 months. No one really knows what he did all day.
So the past 6 months were very difficult because I was paying for mostly everything, he was not motivating me and was expecting us to start having sex, which was hard for me to imagine with him not being motivated in life. Why would i want to get married to someone or have an apartement with someone who would not work etc
He was my first boyfriend and I loved him alot but it just got unfair
However, now (about a week or so later), I have taken a strong interest in a guy who has been in many of my classes. Is it to soon
2006-12-17 04:01:12 · 19 answers · asked by c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you've been separating from your ex for more than a week. Things probably kept building and building until you couldn't stand it anymore. Most of us need to respect the people we're with, and your old boyfriend wasn't making the grade (no pun intended). So, you may be ready to date again soon. If you're afraid it's too soon to date again, let this new intersted know you might want to get to know him as a friend and see what develops.
I'm glad for your sake that you have too much self respect to stay with a man who's not interested in taking care of himself.
2006-12-17 04:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Holly R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old boyfriend is suffering from depression it sounds like. Why he is depressed, we can't know, but he does need help. I had a 0.32 GPA my freshman year. I spent a lot of time either alone, or partying. Ten years+ later now I'm finally comming to understand what was wrong with me and that I need/needed help. It's about brain chemistry and irrational thoughts.
You probably can't talk directly to him about this, maybe a kind note which could give him a clue as to what he needs to look into (talk to someone, a counselor is best). Just know that you cannot force him to get help. If you think that you can talk to his parents and that they would be mature and helpful here (many parents do not understand, they think it's a broken leg, just walk it off) but they might be able to do something useful either way. Allowing him to wallow in his depression is not useful. Although he may need some time to accept that he needs help The best way for this to happen is to have to deal with the consequences of doing nothing. It seems very common these days, another thing you could suggest for him is to read some books about anxiety/depression, this helped me understand it on my own and be more open to getting myself help.
Good luck. Feel free to email me for more info.
2006-12-17 04:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you did the right thing by ending things with your ex if he wasnt very motivating and wasnt working and giving you the support then i would end it too. now as far as this new nterest goes i would take it slow because you just got out of a long term relationship and even tho you like this guy you may not fully be emotionlly ready to jump right into a new relatinoship so fast in just a week. what i would do is try to get to know the guy become friends with him and take it slow let things flow.
2006-12-17 04:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too soon to get to know someone else, but I'd suggest you take it slow. Explain to the guy that you just got out of a relationship and if he's a decent sort, he'll understand.
2006-12-17 04:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by markawfg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It is never too soon to find someone else. If it turns out to be the wrong person, your better judgement will tell you just it did with your first boyfriend.
2006-12-17 04:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the new guy in your classes and see what he's really like. If you feel yourself being swept off your feet, then leave your couch potato of a boyfriend.
2006-12-17 04:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no. You could go out with someone else the same day you break it off with an ex. Especially if he is like your ex. Go for it and NO GUILT!!!
2006-12-17 04:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not... It's good that you moved on... You'll have a hard time with that kind of guy... So go for the new one and be sure he's a better guy...
2006-12-17 04:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dark Valentine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, hmm,,, so that is what you usually do in college... find one try him or her out and if that isnt what you want..... move on... its not like there are plenty to choose from .....
good luck
2006-12-17 04:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl, you only love someone when you can see a future in him.
2006-12-17 04:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by cinabolic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋