My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years and recently he's started being really depressed again. In fact I know for sure he suffers from major depression. We kind of patched it up but he's started to ignore my calls and my e-mails again. I think some of it was my fault but the point is I don't know what to do anymore. The worst part of it is that he's in a different country at the moment because of his job. I'm completely at a loss. I still love him and I think he loves me too and the only reason I think he's acting like this is because he feels so detached from reality. He keeps telling me its not me but him, yet I still feel at a loss. I feel utterly helpless and useless. I wish there was something I could do to fix things or just understand how he feels towards me. I want to support him but he's not even giving me the chance. If anyone could suggest anything, I would feel much relieved but i seriously don't think breaking up with him is an option.
2006-12-17 03:43:26 · 6 answers · asked by Irin Rahman 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know that his been depressed before but this time around it seems to be affect our relationship. I know that depression creeped in on him while he was doing his masters and it wasn't helping him one bit. I think maybe the reason why he's ignoring me right now is because I wasn't much of a help during that period. I was more focused with some of my issues and i didn't try to help him when he needed it. I don't know. At this point any advice will help.
2006-12-17 04:16:35 · update #1
He should talk to someone.
He should seek medical help, It could be a serious medical condition that medication could help. Keep in mind that veryone gets a little depressed from time to time.
2006-12-17 03:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who also had depression problems. I finally gave up trying to have a relationship because I realized that it would always be the same. You can't help them and if they don't get help they will never change. I would say that you just need to move on with your life as hard as that may seem because you will be better off.
2006-12-17 03:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by glt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to encourage him to seek help for his problems or you might have to end things with him. Why suffer if he's not willing to try and make it work with his problems so you two wont suffer. You need to let him know you're worried and how u feel and if doesn't understand i'm not sure what to say..
2006-12-17 03:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by asturiasangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start eating foods that control blood sugar, and eliminating foods that imbalance blood sugar. Once you have this down for you, then feed him the balancing foods, whenever you have the opportunity to cook for him. He is telling you truly. It is his problem, not yours, and imbalanced blood sugar can make it worse.
www.hufa.org has info on low blood sugar, one of the possible causes of depresssion.
2006-12-17 03:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do, maybe email him time to time and let him know your there if he needs you, and give him time to sort out wants bothering him. Good luck
2006-12-17 03:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is clinically depressed, he needs to go to a doctor for meds..
Otherwise...
He is busy chasing another girl you don't know about...
2006-12-17 03:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋