Cheat! My boyfrind is an ***! After seven years of mental/verbal/and once physical abuse I am ready to leave. He refuses to leave my home b/c he is financialy dependant on me. Most of his days are spent smoking weed and visiting friends and family playing playstaion (he's 37)and we have a child together. I have recently met a new guy (outside of my race) and I love the things I experience with him. The new guy is aware of my relationship w/ the current b/f and is willing to wait for a bit on me to end the relationship. I want to pursue the relationship but wonder how my children (who live w/ me) will accept the new white guy (i'm african-am). I have made my mind up and ready to leave this relationship , just scared of the unknown! I am in a lease for the next year and plan on just moving on him, is cheating justifeid under these circumstances.
2006-12-17 03:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't start a new relationship by cheating on your current one. It makes for disaster down the track.
I suggest you end your current r/ship asap as this guy sounds like a waste of your time, love and energy. The fact that you have children together makes this harder, but as a mother you shouldn't want your children to be in that situation anyway. It isn't healthy for them to see.
And don't think that you need to jump head first into a new r/ship. Take it slow, be on your own for awhile. Remember, you don't NEED a man, you CAN do it on your own.
Good Luck
2006-12-17 03:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is justified, but if the guy you want a relationship with is willing to wait and doesn't push you to do things, then he already seems to be a better guy. I would suggest the hard thing of breaking things off with the current guy before you start with the new guy. Cheating on the old guy could create trust issues in the future with the new man. I hope this helps, good luck.
2006-12-17 11:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... don't cheat... get rid of him. Leave your house with the children and then call the police on him for possession of marijuana. Or, call the landlord and explain the situation and you and him both get a restraining order on him. Or, but new locks and change them on him. He's a MAN... or at least he's supposed to be. What kind of MAN depends on a woman, he should be supporting her. I wouldn't consider this cheating if your not even really "with" him. If you're still sharing a bed with your bf... then, you're cheating... there are hotlines you can call in your situation, especially if you want to get rid of this man. Or, you can move, police escorts help a lot. Hope this helps
2006-12-17 11:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by born2bfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna cheat, you might as well save your name and just leave. You don't want your child to blame you for not making it work with his father. Don't be scared of the unknown because it the known which is pushing you towards change for the better.
2006-12-17 11:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by that_one_day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him right away, move on if he's treating you bad and if you like the other guy. You deserve much better, don't take any abuse from again, Leave him while you can. He sounds VERY bad and he could get dangerous. And call the police and tell them about the situation, they will help remove him from you.
2006-12-17 11:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking care of yourself, so you can take care of your kids. Nobody F***ing cares if you cheat or not, but you might think about what you want out of life. Is it children or child?
Honestly, you should think about how to make better choices for yourself. There is a great world out there where dads want to be good dads and kids are happy and well taken care of and you are not lonely and worried about details. Try eliminating all over worlds in your life. =)
2006-12-17 11:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no fence but why did you even get with a guy who smokes weed?!?!?!?!?!?!?! just leave that jerk!!!!! and if this guy is really better (and doesnt smoke weed!) than i'm sure your kids will accept him! b/c i'm sure they dont like a dad who smokes weed and abuses their mother and who stink up their house by smoking weed and giving the kids the potential of dying by breathing his air! ewww!
2006-12-17 11:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by carita de coqueta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is never justified,however.the guy is bone lazy and dependent on you,so leave,even if not for the other guy,but,since you're in love,well you can never know except you try.so,from my heart,i wish it works[i mean with your new guy],all da best.
2006-12-17 11:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by bavo m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but not with a white guy....haha...try a hispanic guy in the military, it'll be easier for the kids to go from black to brown than goin to a white guy.....hit me up sometime....haha..i'll be waitn
2006-12-17 11:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to your nearest police department and ask them for help in having him removed from your apt.
2006-12-17 11:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋