Can a girl have purely physical sex or make outs without falling for the guy?

Question

been w gf for a year and a half. she goes out with friends from college, girls night out. usually they goto a club or a bar.

then i learned that b4 me she used to hook up (grind dance, make out w 'hotties', not typically go all the way) when she'd go with this bunch and has cheated on at least one guy this way. i resisted the urge to become controlling over mere suspicion - but i started looking at the way she dressed differently, etc.

so, i concluded that she could be cheating on me, and i would never know. i became resigned, and started to have fun with the idea. about 6 months ago, i acted on it - before she went out, i gave her a condom to keep in er purse, telling her i'm not suggesting she use it, but just in case . . . she took it, and from that point on there has been a don't ask/ don't tell policy that has turned into a hot game for us, and an understanding that nothing will affect us.

a freind i told is convinced she will ineveitably fall for someone and leave me. ?

Answer 1

Dude, drop her. Why would you let your girlfriend go out and do that? If she loves you she will only want to get physically intimate with you! Come on now, wake up and ask her about it.

Answer 2

This is the typical case of lust and no love, how can you think that you 2 may have a chance in working out? you like each others company and from what i can see your better suited to be friends than to be dating there are alot of women out there that will make you happy and alot of guys suited for her , lifes to short to be worrying and playing silly games, have fun and you'l find the right person when the times right.

Answer 3

you're only asking for trouble!

when a girl starts acting like that... it usually means shes bored... or looking for something more. It simple means shes is "NOT that into you"

I have made out with guys, I was not in love with. what can I say? I am a tease... and I know it.

but... if you think your girl is cheating on you.... then she probably is. Save yourself the hassel and get out of that relationship.

Answer 4

Please notice that the situation is bothering you. Don't pretend to play it cool when you can't! The doubt is killing you or at least affecting you.
So don't waste your time asking if SHE will end up falling for someone else...better ask: what are YOU feeling now being involved with someone who has that kind of conduct. Is that your idea of a girlfriend? Is that the kind of relationship that makes you happy?
Man! don't fool yourself!

Answer 5

Of course some girls do that. I think she will fall for it too if she hasn't already. She might not use the condom you gave her though that's just like telling on herself, but she probably thinks you gave her permission to do whatever she wants.

Answer 6

easily! i'm married now, yet at the same time as i became unmarried i'd go out alot with friends and "hook up" - for me it became continuously only actual - i became under no circumstances searching for a courting with any of those adult males - it became only relaxing - no strings connected type of ingredient. desire issues exercising habitual with you and your female friend :)

Answer 7

Yes, if she is a sociopath. Or if she is a sl ut doing it with a sociopath.

Answer 8

as a guy who love to party with girls that love to party - i thank you. and i would never think of hogging yours and any other guys girl up.

Answer 9

pray , pray that god;s will be done. then if she leaves you, you knwo that god has someone better for you . that will love and cherrish you .

all the best

God bless

Answer 10

It happens all the time.