Does he like me or is he just a player?

Question

Ok, so theres this guy I really like at my school, but he's really hard to read and I get really confused. Like he'll wait on me after class, sit in the cafeteria (which is where I am, this change has started to happen in the last week) instead of going off campus, smile at me a lot, stare at me, want to be near me, etc.

But then he also asks other girls for pens/pencils when I'm pretty close to him, gives them a lot of attention (beyond friendly, more flirty) and stuff. How do I know he doesn't do this to lots of other girls on a daily basis?

It's just a huge ball of mixed signals. I've tried to mask my feelings for him completely because of this, he's in two of my classes and if it ends up he doesn't like me it would be awkward for the rest of the year.

Answer 1

question is do you like him?
is so...
dont mind the attention he gives other people he's not yours, yet
act like it doesnt bother you in fact join in... if he's flirting with a chick around you id be like " looks like "bob" wants a date with you... as if your "helping" him out taking a friend approach, and when he flirts with you be different from the pack by brushing him off, saying things like whatever with a laugh, laugh him off-
this drives dudes crazy for one joining in his flirting with someone else shows lack of insecurity and jealousy which men love and it confuses him as well which is always a good place for a man to be in
laughing him off and rolling your eyes and shaking your head (WHILE SMILING) will present challenge and men looooove a challenge trust me!
pretty soon you'll see him showing you not only more attention but it will be ginuine, not just playing the feild attention, stick to your guns and play your cards right, DO NOT EXPRESS TO HIM YOUR FEELINGS on how he treats other women or yourself! keep it too yourself until the day comes he expresses his to you i cant stress how important that is ! good luck

Answer 2

If he waits for you after class, chooses to stay at school during lunch break, stares at you, smiles at you, etc. I'd say he likes you. You say "a huge ball of mixed signals"? Remember he's a huge ball of raging hormones right now. That might explain his flirting with other girls. Maybe he's trying to make you jealous? Or he might be playing it safe if he's not sure how you feel about him. Does he wait for other girls after class? Do you see him lunching with other girls? He's got a lot at stake (in his mind) if he lavishes you with attention and you reject him--like his pride. Not that it's right, but that's the way boys work. He's got a lot going on chemically, but doesn't have the maturity to cope with it yet. (I'm assuming you're in High School?) I'd say play it cool, keep it friendly. It might be hard for him to tell if you like him (he's a boy, after all.) Eventually if he feels like you won't rip his heart out, he might admit he likes you too. Nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting, don't be jealous. If your instincts are telling you that he's a player and might hurt you, then stay away. But you see him every day, you know what's up.
Always remember that a boy doesn't define who you are. Good luck.

Answer 3

He probably likes you, and is flirting with these girls to make you jealous and to think that he can get any other girl etc... The best thing to do is carry on the way you're going, smile at him if he smiles back so he has an inclination that you might like him, and then if he really likes you, he'll ask you out on a date. Get on with your life tho, without thinking too much about him. Good Luck xx

Answer 4

OK if you want to ask a guy out go for it the problem is if he still does that when your going out then i say dump him intimately and it's not like he just likes one girl i mean come on have you ever went out with a boy and also thought some one else was cute?but never get mad at that but if she is always to topic of your conversation's or he talks to her more than you again dump him

Answer 5

oh boy.. most guys are players at thata age when they are in school i guess they are now growing up and they just dont ever know what they really want! it is sad that guys are like this-- some girls are like that too -- just too young to settle down with one person-- dont take it personally just talk to other guys too- not to make hiim jeolous just because u dont want to get hurt in the end and keep ur options open!! if he asks girls for things in class when ure right beside him just tell him it makes u kinda jeolous and see what his reaction is-- if he acts concerned and stops that means he cares for u or has feelings -- if he doesnt care and still does it dont hold ure breath for him!! good luck!!

Answer 6

Okay yes if u in high this will happen alot from a lot different boys!! U might think i am ghetto for saying this but that boy is a hoe. It is alot of people like that in high school!!! Watch who you go with so you want get hurt

Answer 7

How do you know he isnt thinking the same thing? how would be know if you like him, ounds like you are going to have to tell him or make it really obvious, a good subtle way is to give out christmas cards but put your ph number on his one, that way if he calls or msgs you he likes you if not well then you havnt made an *** of yourself anyway:)

Answer 8

It sounds to me like he's just got a flirty personality. I have a friend who is a lot like that.

Answer 9

he sounds like a player but then again he might just enjoy ur company but on a friends level... maybe u should try becoming friends with him and trying to findout how his mind works and all .. it could help.. something like this happened to me once where this girl thought i liked her just bcoz i liked hanging out with her- wen i found out from her friends that she thought i liked her it was abit wierd since i just wanted her friendship..hope it helps

Answer 10

Ask your friends. The ones that go to your school, they would know him and know if he is a player or not