My EX gf is pregnant, she was cheating on me for quite a while, Im not sure if the child is mine. I havnt spoke to her since we split up in june. i last slept with her around about mid April. One of her friend told me she pregnant and moving to italy with the bloke she was with when she was cheated on me. What shpould i do befor she moves in Jan, because if the child is mine ill never get to see it.
2006-12-17 02:35:51 · 17 answers · asked by Steve9000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go to a lawyer and check your options. there is a way to do a dna test too just can't rember how many months she has to be pregant.
2006-12-17 02:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to find out is whether she really is pregnant, and if so how far gone. Unless the answers are "yes" and "about eight months", the child is not yours and it's nothing to do with you.
Even if the answers are as above, as she was cheating, there's no way to know whether or not the child is yours without DNA testing. This can be done before the birth, but that must carry risks, so you should wait.
However, before you go that far, consider: if the child is yours, what are you prepared to offer? Hard though it is, it's not just about what your rights are. At the moment, it seems the child has two parents in a relationship together who want him/her. If the child turns out to be yours, the mother will probably still get custody, and could probably still leave the country; although whatever the outcome, your intrusion may harm the current relationship and therefore the child's environment. Are you ready to be committed to providing financial support? Do you want to be involved? And, selfishly, are you ready for the baggage of a child with an ex - this can put a strain on future relationships.
You have a lot of thinking to do, try getting advice from friends with children/single parents, or maybe FamiliesNeedFathers or another such support group. You need to decide what you want, what you can offer, and find out whether your rights support your wishes. However, the first thing to do is find out the current facts. Speak to her friend again, or call your ex and ask her. Good luck.
2006-12-17 03:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is December and if it was April then she would be about due then. If she is, then it could be yours. I would ask her to be honest with you before before she left. She at least owes you that. She would have the child by then, and you can see if the child looks like you. I don't know if the doctor would let her fly if she was due and not had the child by then. I will pray you get an honest answer from her. She may not even know for sure herself, unfortunately.
2006-12-17 02:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
the baby will enjoy his own life without you, this is sad but true, especially if he will live with two parents that love each other instead of two fighting parents.
Let they go.
If the child is yours or not, this is not the most important thing.
The most important thing is the happiness of the baby, not yours, sorry.
First of all, you have to care about the baby, not about you.
So, if they are going to have a good life together in Italy, you have only to be happy.
I know this is not so simple, but have a try.
Good luck,
Diego
2006-12-18 01:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by diegotom7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one this is, and i am in no way assuming you are uncaring but would it not be better for you just to leave things be? If the child is yours or not the only way you will find out is by having a dna test and if shes moving away and you find out after all that expense that he/she is your child what then?
Will you keep in touch? demand photos of the child? All this needs careful consideration cos it sounds to me that she never had any respect in the beginning because she cheated.
Let her get on with it and tough poop if she ends up alone its her own fault for being selfish.
2006-12-17 02:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this means u have feeling for her but u r not sure weather the child is urs.the problem is this, she nv call u up and not even care u r the child's son so y u care ?may b the child is not urs,if u really care u should look for her and ask4 the truth but bcareful cz u might met his bf and that will not look good.
2006-12-17 02:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her up, and ask her who the baby's is and say that if it's yours, you have a right to know before she goes off to Italy. It may be had for you to call her, but just try, because you need to know.
2006-12-17 02:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by hello. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dad
2006-12-17 02:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it mate,you've got off lightly,you would never have known who was responsible for the pan lid!
2006-12-17 04:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept now that the child is not your's and find a girl of your own
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2006-12-19 09:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋