My aunt has cancer through her whole body. The doctors think she isnt going to live much longer. She currently has to have someone watch her 24/7 because she is so sick. It kills me, but I want her to remember me and i want to make sure she knows I love her. I need help with something to bring up. Please help.
2006-12-17 02:18:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
The most precious thing you can do for her, is tell her what a good aunt she has been to you.
Tell her how much you love her, and that she will always live on in your heart.
You can buy her something that she cannot take with her. You can make her something from the heart, but she won't be able to take that either.
Sometimes we forget that what our loved ones want most of all is the communication of our love.
It is nothing material at all.
Be with her, tell her things, share memories.
That is what will last.
Now is the time to say the truth of your mind to her.
You'll think of the right words.
It's painful and I'm sorry. I know.
Share yourself with her...you don't need anything other than that.
2006-12-17 02:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Seattle 7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all...if you really love her and take care of her,then,pray for her...really prayers can do miracle,it is something that the modern science of all its inventions still cannot understand...secondly, help her out in the small things of life which cancer makes very difficult to perform...thirdly do talk or communicate to her a lot so that to make her depression or her sense of loss go away,cancer battles are mostly lost when the will to live has been lost,u can help her out in that...fourthly if her cancer is not in a terminal stage u could improve her diet,not let her become malnutritioned,again a reason for a person to lose battle and to include healthy things in her diet such as vegs.etc.there are cases where cancer has been eliminated by actually improving lifestyle,health and diet of a person...best of luck..and just remember one thing all of us have to die one day or the other so if unfortunately and (i hope u dont) u lose her just remember that thats the way life goes but do help her out now because then u will never be disappointed that u didnt try..
2006-12-17 03:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by sCrUbs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the positive influences that she made during your life. Things she said or did when you were young that you will always remember. Spend some time with her just talking and work these tid-bits into the conversation like- Remember when we got caught....and you took up for us. I say make a list because these things get emotional and the mind isn't dependable under stress. Being a positive light in someones life is as good as any of us can hope for and sometimes we have to be reminded of these things. You are a good person...I'm glad to know you.
2006-12-17 02:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sick now and want simple things like spending time together, talking. Maybe you could do her nails or watch a movie together. I remember when my grandfather was dying, I gave him the play by play for a basketball game. He was a pro in the early days of the NBA and I would watch games on his lap since I was a little girl. He couldn't see the screen because the medication he was on made his vision really bad. He visualized the game. I cried the whole time but he didn't see. I think he heard it in my voice. Just remember you will remember every one of her last moments. Make the most of them.
2006-12-17 03:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Yisrael Chai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for you... My sister is going through this very same thing... I just talk with her and listen to her and her fears...and I did ask her if there is anything that I could do for her now or after she is gone. In my sisters case she has young children so it is very difficult... If she asks something of you make sure that you follow through with it... Just love her as much as you can while she is here. I don't wish this on anyone...it is a very difficult situation to be in. Happy Holidays and best wishes
2006-12-17 06:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about this, and I will try my best to suggest something. What's your best memory with her? Try to make something out of that... Maybe if you can have a photograph, or video of something special maybe you can present it to her as a gift, and if it's a video, you two can watch it together, just to spend time together. If you're artistic, try writing a poem...But I will tell you one thing...If you want to make her feel truly happy, you should not buy gifts, like a card someone else wrote. It should be something your created, not anyone else. The best of luck..
2006-12-17 02:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Guy_33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is spend time with her. That means more than anything you can give her. Play cards with her, watch her favorite movies with her, read to her, or just spend time talking to her. Share memories of your favorite times with her, and make sure you let her know how much you love her and how much she means to you. If she is that sick, there is no material good that she needs.
2006-12-17 02:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still aware of her surroundings, I would gather up framed photos of the family and place them all around her bed. Also, whatever time to can give to sit and hold her hand should help. They did a study about the power of hand-holding. They found that people in MRIs who had their hand held by a loved one reported less discomfort and claustrophobia than those who went in alone.
2006-12-17 02:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by curiousmind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has children or grandchildren, reassuring her that you will always be there for them will put her mind at ease. Also, making sure she knows that you'll make certain to keep her memory alive. The two biggest fears and worries are what will happen to my loved ones without me, and will they forget me when I am gone. If you can alleviate those two concerns, she will appreciate it more than she can express, I'm sure.
2006-12-17 02:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew of a lady that had a "close to death experience" or NDE. She replaced into status in a huge field of daisies with the Savior. She said that the flowers she replaced into status on went good up with the help of her ft (she replaced into in spirit kind). the element that wondered her the most replaced into the actual incontrovertible truth that all the flowers appeared the very similar. This stricken her, so she requested Jesus "Why are all the flowers the same?" He basically reported,"because they are proper!" How user-friendly issues are when we lead them to out to be so confusing. imagine on a number of those good issues human beings have shared with you. do not for a second doubt that your uncle not in a fine looking position finished of flowers and ask your self ! be pleased about the time you all had to percentage with him and understand he's resting interior the Lords peace. God bless you and your household.
2016-11-30 21:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋