Confused, Miserable, lost?

Question

Hey
thanks to the many people who have answerd my other questions.

someone said to me " to start your dream you must put action in to it , stop dreaming my life away etc"
that makes alot of sence but i just cant seem to make myself live in other words i am so trapped with being a carer and my fears and my derpression. i just cant seem to get out.
can anyone help with that?

Answer 1

Babe life was never meant to be easy its just soooo complicated. Sometimes you have to follow ur heart and do what u think is best for you. im kinda a carer myself to my mum and we both have the same illness ... borderline personality disorder. its really hard work especially when ur not to good urself! u must be a really strong person. Dont feel trapped go with the flow and try and make time for urself too!

sorry this isnt much help but needed to say some of it xxx

Answer 2

You do not want to have to dissoiclate, and live in another world. What you need to do is stay focus , and deal with whatever is bothering you right now, today. You also need to address the depression you are feeling. So If i was you i would go and see someone that can help with that depression. For some people the depression can be taken care of, and not come back. You need to find out what is causing the depression, and work through it, so you can get back to your normal life. And you need to address the fears that you are having. You know their is not a magic wand out there, or a magic pill that will take it all away. So if you want to quit feeling the fear, and depression, and trapped, then you proably should go and seek some professional help, and let them help you to work through these problems before they get worse. So you can get back to your normal life, and enjoy it to the max.

Answer 3

You are probably finding thoughts and feelings come and go and so it's hard to make progress. I suggest you buy a notebook you can carry around with you at all times. Start it from one end by writing down feelings and thoughts as they happen. This will be hard sometimes, but other times when you start writing you'll find it hard to stop. Then use the other end of the book to only write down things you want to keep happening. These are your values, even if they aren't happening yet, list them here. Also write down here specific things which have happened to you that you like - now or in the past. These will remind you life isn't all bad. Use this book daily in this way and review it often. I hope it helps. Take care - the answer (and strength) can be found inside yourself.

Answer 4

You are on your own in this world honey and that I have come to learn is not really a negative thing at all, but something you should be grateful of. We can all have relationships and friendships which give us comfort and make us not feel alone as we have someone alone with you. So you not always alone but at the end of the day you need to make decisions and choices yourself and for yourself and the sooner you do it the better that will be.

Beleive me its cliche the way people say smile and cheer up but forget that, just be positive (but not foolish) because if you don't things WILL get worse. mark my words. Even if , when u are being positive, you aren't on top of the world with enormous sucess it doesn't matter. And DO NOT compare urself with other people its nonsense. Take each day one at at a time and slowly build yourself, taking the 'punches on the chin and 'roll with the knock outs' as they come.

Answer 5

It takes a long time and a lot of sh*t to happen to you for depression to hit you; sadly, it takes as long if, not longer, to beat it... You need to be patient, take your medication, re-learn to enjoy life, little by little. You enjoy Y/A that's a start.
Make a list everyday as you wake up, of the things that should bring you some satisfaction today, even if it's just one thing, then you have that to look forward to as you get up.
Keep a feelings diary and don't forget to include any little thing that has given you pleasure in the day.
My counsellor put me on a WRAP when I stopped the meds; it's a Wellness Recovery Plan; ask yours about it.
Good luck, sweetie, you'll get there!

Answer 6

it's very easy to say you should stop dreaming and be proactive, but if it was that easy for you, you wouldn't need to be asking for help. I would seriously suggest you find a support group as it's easier to find motivation when you're with others. The Citizen's Advise Group will have a list of groups, or at the front of the telephone directory there is a list of useful numbers, one of which may be appropriate for you. You can also ask your doctor for counselling. Good luck, and remember you've already taken the first step by asking for help online

Answer 7

Make a start by changing one very small thing in your life. Get off the bus a stop earlier and walk the rest of the way to work, for example. The reasoning behind this is to start to regain control - it's all too easy to think that you can't change everything all at once, and to change nothing! Make small steps, don't try to do too much all at once, and you will soon see that things will fall into place for you, Good luck.

Answer 8

try a new attitude in life , positive mental attitude , i beleive in a positive mental attitude at all times possible .....dont be a foolist live life to the fullest , love your life to the fullest !!!! coz youre only here once, this is now so here and now beleive in what you can achieve before its too late, if you believe in yourself you may succeed at almost anything you put your mind to ...Make everyday count. Apprichiate every moment and take from it everything you can, for you may never be able to expierience it again.Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up high because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you dont believe in yourself no one else will believe you either.
You can make your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

Answer 9

just a suggested thought comes to mind

if you knew you had one week to live
make a list of what you feel you would want to do

pick out some portion of that list and work towards it

when I get down--
no details right now forthcoming

anyway I think of Jews in 'the camps'
those with no choices
who chose to live
who chose pass along their stories

that seed of 'needing to survive' is in all of us

Medication is a quick way to help you over anxiety
with a good doctor
a good therapist
help yourself pass this bump in your life

Hope you get help
some folks DO choose to stay locked inside their homes,
their heads
and worry/depress their lives away

you have to help yourself
if you are able
make an appt
see a doctor that helps folks with depression

following quote from source
"How many times in a day do we lose our temper,
snap at those we love, ignore those we work with,
go to school with, interact with each day?

Sometimes, we are so wrapped up in our life,
our problems, what we are trying to get done,
we simply tune out others.

You see, being kind requires us to care for others.
It requires us to concentrate on their needs.
It forces us to look away from ourselves and look at others"

be kind to yourself
don't settle for being trapped by you

do you feel you are kind to yourself
or do you expect the moon?

then when you are on your feet again/finally
HELP others

Answer 10

Sadly you have to do it yourself. But perhaps a word with your doctor and a counsellor might help. Start with something small and try some exercise to keep your spirit up. Remember you are not alone in feeling the way you do. I wish you well. Good luck.