I am pushing the man I love away by my insecurities and yesterday he really got mad at me and gave me back my cellphone I let himuse ,he said he needs a few days to think about if he wants to live like this,hesays I am acting just like his exgirlfreind,he said that I make it be all about me,he says he needs space and I still ask him if he is gonna come see me.I relize that is being selfish,I will not try and contact him for he is upset as it is,I just hope I havent blown it with him,I know I am having some trouble so I started seeing a couselor.he was upset because i kept calling his house instead of waiting for him tocall me back, I told him that I get scared he is gonna blow me off,these are the types of things that are driving him away,i think I have too much time on my hands and need to learn to be more patient ,he takes care of his 7 year old son that he has full custody of.i know i have to learn to bite my tongue or Im gonna lose him forever.please give any advice.
2006-12-17 01:00:36 · 6 answers · asked by lainey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, he's just a wimp, and if he doesnt like you checkin up on him, most likely he is hiding something, and sheesh...if he has to borrow your cell phone, y are you with a man, that apparently cant provide......
2006-12-17 01:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time for you to work on yourself....don't worry about
what he's doing, cause that isn't gonna help you. So,..your
problem is your, to needy. Stop acting this way. Build up your
confidence....By pushing him away..what are you accomplishing
Nothing. Seems your stuck in a cycle. So, stop spinning on re-
peat. You CAN change your behaviour. But you must accept
responsiblity for your thinking..and your actions. Getting help &
talking to a therapist....is the best thing youv'e done. This person
may not even be for you in the long run. Give yourself time...
2006-12-17 01:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done the right thing getting some counceling. You really have to get right with you, before you can get right with others. You need to find out if this guy is really what you need or are you just trying to fill a gap. Most guys don't want to fill a gap, they want to be a lover not a father. Take the steps to get better yourself and he will be there.
And imagin yourself when you are better. Would you really want a a pu ssy like Soldier boy thinks men should be, or a man who demands trust and respect and will return it in kind.
2006-12-17 01:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Zarathustra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him think you are scared that he'll leave you. Act normal and leave him alone for sometime, try to act a bit cool. After a few days if he really likes you, i bet he'll call you. If he doesnt call, you call him and ask him if he cares about you. I hope everything goes well. Dont worry, If you guys really like each other you wont break up for nothing!
2006-12-17 01:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Choco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the man, but try to be true and say openly what you like and what you don't like... make him do the same. Everyone wants to be sure of what they have...
2006-12-17 01:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Feanor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are acting just like my ex boyfriend. I loved that man to pieces. But his behavior was driving me to drink. So, he had to become my ex. Take a chill and learn to trust the future, not the past. Wear a rubberband around your wrist and pop yourself really hard when you are about to screw up again. And don't become like my ex. Eliminated.
2006-12-17 01:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him before he dumps you--- it's all competition, that's how men see it--
2006-12-17 01:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋