iv been seeing this guy on and off for the past two years. he claims
that he has always liked me. After almost a year i told him that
i loved him... he said that he didn't feel the same way back and felt
that it was unfair of him to lead me on.. so we split up.
However we still trained together at the gym (as we are part of the same group) and after two or three weeks he was on the phone asking me to forgive him etc.
in the end i said id give him a second chance... now he proclaims that he loves me... and keeps saying how he has never felt this way about anyone before.
i still hav a shadow of doubt in my mind as to weather he does.
i know next year he will be leaving or town and going somewhere else to live.
im scared of falling too much for this guy (eventhough i already hav) and then him leaving.
what would you do in my shoes???
2006-12-17 00:33:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tough sitiuation--- only thing i can say is that you ought to enjoying being with him as much as you can if he is going to be leaving town next year. I've had situations where I loved the guys I was with, but for certain circumstances we could not be together--- but well, what I am trying to say is, don't fall for him, but enjoy the time you are going to spend with him. If the circumstances change and you both can be together then great. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-17 00:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by erotikos_stratiotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hesitation may have been because he truely hasn't felt that way before. However, in my experience, if you guys were honest and open with each other, ya's shouldn't have broke up if he really did love you so maybe you should try to slow the relationship down and get a grip on your own feelings before he does leave town. And if he is going to another town to live, why aren't you going with or has he asked you to?... if not then maybe the town is close enough to visit. If not then I would look elsewhere. Good luck & be strong.
2006-12-17 08:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by scoobysnackz0703 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What anyone else would do in your shoes is not the issue.
YOU have to decide what is right for you.
If he is moving away that could well be the test of how serious his dec;laration of love is.
If it is the real thing distance will make no difference....he would fiind the time to come back as often as possible.
Then you will know one way or another.
If he simply moves on and makes no attempt to contact you, just put it down to experience. (That may sound rather callous but there would be nothing else that you could do, and life has to go on)
2006-12-17 08:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I started dating my wife 3.5 years ago, I did the same kind of thing to her. I knew when I met her that she made me feel a way that I have never felt before. She had a glow about her that I had never seen before, she owned my heart the minute that I saw her. When things started heating up in a serious context, I got scared and pretended that I didn't feel the way that I did for her when she told me that she loved me. I couldn't out get of the situation fast enough, but when I saw my wife walking away from me and what we had, I realised that there was nothing to run from, she loved me for who I was and who I was to become. My wife has helped make me into the man that I am today and if she had not talked to me after my mistake we wouldn't be happily in love and happily married for 2 years in Jan 07! I think a lot of us males are scared of our feelings, we are brought up to be tough and not in touch with our emotions. So to make a decision totally based on our emotions in a scary thing for us as we are taught to never listen to them. It is only when we realise what we have lossed that we take action to win the heart of the woman that we love. Give him a chance and trust the love that he has to give.
2006-12-17 08:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wacthed as told by ginger on nickelodeon, the movie...
life...to be happy needs a leap of faith...
trust your life and your hopes...if you beleive it can work, then it'll work....be prepared about him moving out of town, on how you'll cope and how the next step of your relationship would be...
but you need to have hope first that'll work, preventing from getting yourself hurt is like not living at all...get prepared on what you'll do if you do get hurt...but dont think about it too much...
life has too many miracles installed for us, when you see it you grab it....
2006-12-17 08:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least he was honest with you about hes feeling for you,if you did have him back how long is it going to be before you are back on hear again asking for advice,just leave it alone now,find a new guy who is not moving on
2006-12-17 08:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would waste my time waiting for someone who is playing with my feelings. So i dont thing so i would be in this kind of crisis. Because, sometime waiting for someone hurts, and your wasting your time. If its meant to be, no matter what happens, it will still be. so, you just got to trust your heart, hear what your heart says. I cant tell u wheater he loves u or not. No one can. But only you can. good luck. all the best.
2006-12-17 08:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Farah_Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it! we only live once, and the way i think that when things like this happen they happen for a reason, and just go along with the flow of things. Good luck x
2006-12-17 08:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by chloe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it seems as though this guy can just come and go as he pleases if i was in your shoes id tell him i love him but i cant get hurt anymore nd i think it wud be best if we stayed close friends!! hope it helps!
2006-12-17 08:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Melle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god! I never had problems like this. they seem so small compared to the real problems in life. are you 16? forget about it. Go to darfur and save some people.
2006-12-17 08:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋