death in the family (sister) only girl in family youngest out of all of us iam the oldest miss her so much i want to be with her what can i do
2006-12-17 00:13:22 · 14 answers · asked by kep1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are soo not alone in how you feel. you pretty much just described how i feel everyday. i was extremely close to my younger brother. we lived together in an apt when we were older for many years, went on vacation together with my husband, hung out together all the time, talked to each other like everyday, saw him at least 3 tiems a week,e ct... i took care of him, to me he was more then a brother, i almost felt like his mom in the sense that i was always worried about him and how i took care of him when we lived together, dishes, cleaning, cooking putting away his clothes, you get my point. then i found him dead, that was 2 yrs ago and not a day goes by that i don't hink about him and miss him. i remind my 4 yr old about him all the time to make sure she remembers him. he was such a great uncle, he was the fist one to visit when she was born and it was soo passed visiting hours, it was 10 or so at night, but he was a charmer. so anyway, i thought about being with him. the pain is so intense that i couldn't breathe. all i wanted to do was to be with him. i can't live without him. but, think about it, how would she feel seeing you like this? would she want you to join her? and not only th at, think about all the pain your parents are going thru. and think about what they would go thru if they lost you as well. being a parent, there is no greater loss then losing a child, no matter how old they are, they will always be thier baby. your parents need you so much, you have no idea. my mother has now lost 2 kids, and she will never be the same again. dying isn't the answer. it won't solve anything. yes you won't feel the pain anymore, but you won't feel joy in life as well. and you know in your heart your sister woun't want you to join her. and i will tell you what everyone tells me, you have so much to live for and there are so many people who need you and love you, they need you because they love you. i don't know if you are married with kids but if you are, think about them as well. think about everyone. i pray you find the strength to go on. and maybe you should find someone to talk to to help you get thru this very difficult time. but just know, there are people out here who know how you feel and are going thru the same thing. and i am one of them. please stay strong. one day at a time. ok? thinking of you.
2006-12-17 02:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by bimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so normal to feel to way that you do just remember that God has a plan for all of us and that she has served her karma here on earth. and now has become one of Gods wonderful angles and is watching over you and your family. see my Brother passed away 10 years ago on Dec. 5. 1996 we were very close he lived in North Florida and we lived 6 hours from him that day we got a call he was in the hospital we went there I looked at my Husband and said that we better pack for a funeral and we did when we got there my mother told me that he is brain dead and there just waiting for the rest of the brothers to get there my mom waited for them for hours and the Doctor could not wait any longer because he was to be cremated and he was a organ donor. So she did what any mother would do she pulled the plug she said God I brought him into this world I'll will be the one to take him out .and she did all I can say to you at this point is that you have to keep her alive in your heart and to always remember that one you will be together again. May God bless you and your family and have a blessed Christmas
2006-12-17 00:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- it is perfectly nornal to feel like this. You have lost a loved one, how are you expected to feel. You are probably feeling as though someones just ripped ya heart out? Thats nornal too.
Its the time of year for reflection and the saddest time for some me included after losing loved ones. Birthday's anniversarys all that does rear its ugly head. If you have suicidal thoughts talk to your family about it and make sure there is lots of support because you will need it.
Take care
x
2006-12-17 00:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So Sorry for the loss of your baby sister.
This is a normal feeling you where the protector.
Peace get some counseling & support group.
Please carry on to do some good out of her memory.
May God Bless you and your family..and bring you peace
2006-12-17 00:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by LCee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural to miss someone so much that you want to be with them, but its not right to do something about it - think about it... if you do something wrong, then how many people are going to be feeling the same and miss you. All you can do is miss her, but try be there for the rest of your family as they may feel the same...
2006-12-17 00:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by liza p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything suicidal whatever you do, that would only hurt your family even more after all the suffering they've been through. Your sister would want you to be happy, so live for her.
2006-12-17 00:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to feel like that, losing a sister is a terrible thing. I think maybe it would help you to talk to somebody about it, perhaps a bereavement councillor.
Other than that, it is going to be difficult but it is true what they say, time is a great healer.
My sympathy to you.
2006-12-17 00:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very sorry for your lose!! But you can be with her remember all the good things funny things. The times you both laughed togethr and even the times you argued cos these are all memories that will keep her with you. In time you will feel better but you will never forget her cos thats what you call love!
2006-12-17 00:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by dan T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss
ofcourse its normal to miss,want to be with her,but you have to live your own life first,she would want that,and want you to be happy think of all the things you have to look forward to,the people that will come into your life,you can tell them all about her and after some time this will make you smile,not sad,don't worry you will never forget her!
2006-12-17 00:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be in the woods alot if one of my rothers died. the woods makes me feel better. she lives on in your heart. remember. the ones we truly love never really leave us.
2006-12-17 00:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋