There's this guy I know at college that's become a good friend over the last couple of months. Trouble is, I've developed a crush on him and I don't think he feels the same way. I know he's single, but I don't think he's over his ex, as he talks about her a lot. He obviously likes me, but just as a friend, and I don't want to spoil our friendship by letting him know how I feel.
So the problem is, how do I get over these feelings while still seeing this guy every day and being his friend?
2006-12-16 23:47:07 · 24 answers · asked by Phil 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the replies... and I probably should have made it clearer, but I'm female!
2006-12-16 23:54:10 · update #1
You force yourself to.
If you really think he doesn't feel the same, just constantly remind yourself about the fact that you're just friend and that he loves someone else.
Love hurts.
Hopefully the pain it brings will give you your desired result.
Good luck.
2006-12-16 23:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You focus and give respect rather then feelings...
when your friends, you should focus on what a friend would do, trying to hold back your emotion is very brave of you...especially as its for a friend...
sometimes its not a real crush with guy friends, its just a close feeling you have for him becuz he's so close to you and tells you everything...think about it, maybe it is true....
try making other friends and get a boyfriend...try to put whats suppose to be behind you, behind you... pulling back your emotoins isnt good, so get a diary or a letter that you can write everyday and pour out on everytime...(dont let no one know)
also, do more activities that you can focus on, to take your mind off...
if its too much, I suggest you talk to him and ask him how you should solve the problem...but its the LAST resort...dont worry, true friends would try to understand...
2006-12-17 07:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he doesn't feel the same way? I would give him time first to get over the ex if that's what is needed then if you still feel the same way after some time has passed and it's eating you up inside TELL HIM! i mean if you feel it ur gona still feel it whether u tell him or not.. if it works out he feels the same.. sweeeeeeeet!! if he doesn't means he's not the one for u and ul meet someone else oneday and it'll be mutual
2006-12-17 07:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushes and infatuation are the beginning of a relationship. Time and reality (like his working through the loss of his ex) help wear these down, and you will see what is left for the relationship. Then you can decide what you want to do on a firm basis of actual experiences.
2006-12-17 07:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by DrB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just turn your "he's hot' volume knob down and try to be a friend to him while he is going through the getting over his ex stage. No point getting involved with him at this stage because he will be on the rebound and may just bounce away from you back to her.
Give him time. When you are sure he is over her, make your play.
2006-12-17 07:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think chances of you getting over him so soon is slim because u see him daily and spend alot of time with him. unless there is a new guy that comes along and could attract your attn, you would still carry a torch for your guy friend.
2006-12-17 07:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by pristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the options are,..
1. find a new crush
2. tell him,. go out with him,. he sleeps with you as the rebound since he not over the ex and then you break up and the friend ship is screwed
3. take the guys advice with the time vokda mcdonalds and porn
2006-12-17 07:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Close friends, like two people riding in the same car, inevitably head in the same direction and arrive at the same destination. Question is, Is this car headed where you want to go?
2006-12-17 07:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
crushes come and go....just let this one go...it also depends on why the guy u like and his ex split up and if theres any chance of them getting back together
2006-12-17 08:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think to your self that its better to habe him as a friend than nothing at all. who knows maby yyoull meet someone else and forget about him
good luck
2006-12-17 07:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋