I just need to let off steam.
I have seven siblings who never help my father and seldom give any money. It is not that they earn little, in fact quite a few earned more than 6 thousands. At home staying is one of other sibling who never contribute any money. My father at the age of 76 still wash my brother clothes. I had to give money 500 dollar every month, pay the bills, do the housework and pay the 2 holiday trips to China for my father and other holiday this year. I hate being emotional blackmail by father who express wishes to visit China. He knows none of my other sibling would fulfill his needs. At time I feel like ending my life. Some of brothers express willness to contribute but mostly are empty words.
2006-12-16 23:37:24 · 11 answers · asked by y y111a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Quit EXPECTING people to do and react the way you EXPECT them too. We all have our own choices and your resentment will do no good for the situation at hand. Stop being a doormat for them. Do what you can and WANT to for your father and allow your siblings the same choices. You are creating your own problem as most of us do!
2006-12-17 00:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to ask - Where are you from? What kind of culture has a 76 year old father washing his son's clothes? I just hope that's a typo. But if it's not, and your dad father really is 76 years old, that must mean you're at least 36....so how to end your life? Leave it. Tell your family you're done taking care of your dad and stop helping out so much.... And I presume too that if your father is 76, most of your siblings will be older than you, so why would they only be making 6 thousand dollars??
2006-12-17 07:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is never a solution. others wished they would live another day and you want to end your life. i think you should tell your father and your brothers what do you feel like about all of this. they do not really know what you feel but they love you even if maybe sometimes you feel they don't. all the people in the world are going throw some of this problems, worse or maybe not, but what ever happens to you do not do this. you are much better than that, do not be a coward. talk to your family all that you have on your mind, and if they do not care, then do not give them money for a period of time and maybe in this way they will care more. you are stronger than your problems, you just need to get all your forces and get on with it. good luck, and what ever happens do not end your life!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 07:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by luchi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the only sibling willing to contribute and take care of your father is a huge burden to carry. If I were you, I would have a family meeting with all of your brothers and sisters. Tell them that you feel it is unfair that they are not helping and you wish for some assistance. If they absolutely refuse, don't let your father down! Take care of him on your own. I know it's hard, but please do not feel so depressed about it. Ending your life is NOT the solution, it will only cause more heart ache! Pray about the situation. That is one of the best things you can do, especially if no one wants to listen to you. Just know that I will be praying for you too! Best wishes!
Millie
2006-12-17 07:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rosalind55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Pal, don't u ever speak something like that. I understand ur problems but, never ever think of ending ur life. Life is precious!. Actually if u give up ur life, it will put a blanket on u saying that U R COWARD! U r not a coward ok.. U have been supporting ur dad for so many days. Why don't u try being little more patient and fulfill his wishes at least he'll be happy that atleast u care for him and u help him unlike ur other brothers.
Please reconsider abt what i told... I may not have told u something very important but, i think its quite meaningful to think over it.
SO please relax and take proper decisions.
I'll pray to God that ur problem should be resolved soon. U too pray He is the only one who can help u at this situation.
Goodluck!
2006-12-17 07:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ajj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a episode of Cinderella to me.Listen your fairy Gof mother is "You"if no one is going to contribute to the caue then you must forfill the your own "Wishes"people will just use empty word to make themselves look good.At some point in your life you must look at what is most important to you.YOUR father or You?No disrespect to your father intendead but it's your life and it sounds to me your family is living theres.Do what you can for your father because that is your father and we must respect that.If you can sport the trip to China HEY make it for TWO yourself and him.If your not finanually able to do that then tell him dad let's go to "China Town"(replica)in various towns LA San Francisco San Deigo etc.Hey it's better to be able to at least see somthing that reminds him/you of China.And you will save money too.After you take a vacation then just keep saving and then you will be able to go where you want to go.
2006-12-17 20:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you need to have a talk to your siblings and ask them why they won't help you. You should never have to feel you need to end your life over something that they could help you with. Tell them actions speak louder than words and demand some help. If they care at all they just might get there act together and give you the help you deserve.
2006-12-17 12:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by h_how2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about ending your life, then I think it isnt going to solve any of your problems. You'll be called a loser & someone who didnt have faith in God. If you really feel that you were born in this world for a reason then try to find a solution to your problems & pray to God & little by little everything will become ok & your problems will fade away. Help your father in everyway you can but dont bow down to your brothers & dont beg for their help. Have faith in God & after sometime your brothers will offer you their help, sincerely.
2006-12-17 08:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by mustafa_burhani52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are taking on a huge responsibility that is not yours.
I know you love your dad but there is a limit .
You need to concentrate on your life
live your life to the fullest.
2006-12-17 09:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have an orgy with your siblings
2006-12-17 08:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by mizz annie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋