some people are born to have a better package than others. one can't help but go green-eye over this person. especially when you yourself are just simple-looking girl and suddenly a cousin who wears flashy clothes, overly-done make ups and sashays when she walks joined you for a holiday in the hometown. your family members seems to be more interested in her, showering her with questions on how she is while you...just sit in the corner and wondering if you really are visible. yeah she always get all the priorities and you only get nothing. don't you feel discriminated? in order to get a bit of their attention and love what will you do?extreme make-overs? plastic surgeries perhaps? join a reality show?
2006-12-16 23:27:25 · 12 answers · asked by sweetbianca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have an older sister who was always the "pretty one". Everytime we would walk into a room the high pitched hello's etc were always directed at her. People told her all of the time how pretty she was. She was a cheerleader and a model. I was always a little chubby and very simple but a lot smarter. Now that we are adults in our thirties, my sister has gained a lot of weight and I am thin with a clearer complexion and still have the brains (well most of them). When people see us who have not seen us in years... guess who gets the attention?! It will all work out sweetie. Just know that you are beautiful and your time will come. The glam never lasts forever. Chin up! What they think does not matter it is what you think of yourself!
2006-12-17 01:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by snowangel101224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If such a thing would happen 2 me, i wouldnt feel sad and i wouldnt even try 2 get attention back from my parents
because itz no need if ur parents really love u. some or other day they ll c the bad sides of this prettier sister or cousin. they ll get 2 know tht beauty is not everything in this world.
4 me, itz really meanless to show tht u r the better one with the help of plastic surgeries or sth llike tht u mentioned above. thtz all rubbish becoz it ll b a g8 war n will lead 2 nothing. Show ur good sides which r really inside U thn u wont get into any trouble and ur parents will like u. Dont try 2 change u in some1 else who r not, just show ur good parts and listen 2 ur parents.
may i know y u asked sth like tht?
anyway i hope i could help u....good luck..
urz shamanta
2006-12-16 23:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by shamanta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. That is the best thing you can do. Do not fall into the dysfunctional mindset. It is sad that your family does not pay attention to you. I always read a book in the corner. That is what I wanted to do. My bother needed constant attention and was always doing things. I focused on what I was doing an tuned them out. If you want to be a part of what they are doing, interrupt them and give them your "two cents".
Again, I would not even consider plastic surgery or some dumb television show.
2006-12-16 23:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really because I am me, and I like me. Why go through all the pain staking surgery just to look better. Why not focus on what you were given. So you won`t win miss Universe, big deal alot of great people were so pretty. Think about Einstein he came up with the law of relativity, he wasn`t a looker. People focus on there looks too much instead of the gift given to them.
2006-12-16 23:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by philmasen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not all about getting attention. We are all here for a special purpose.
I"m sure that you have a special talent that your sister/cousin does not
have. This is what makes life interesting. We are all different but special
in ourselves. Look inside yourself and know yourself. You will find a
beauty that no one else has. Peace.
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2016-11-27 00:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always competitive with a sister. She is only 11 months younger and she is beautiful! I am the "cute" one. Now that I am older it no longer matters..I've discovered the things which make us different and unique from one another. I embrace our differences and I find others do too. What YOU feel about yourself is what will radiate outside that others will see!! There is only one of you, made up from one single cell!! Impressive if you ask me!!
2006-12-17 01:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same situation myself and i know its not fun but experience taught me to not put myself in the background and to join in the fun. the exterior of a person is not that important its how warm,loving and caring you are that counts. just be yourself and all will pan out you wait and see good luck
2006-12-16 23:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by whitesnake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about confidence. I wouldn't recommend going to extreme just to feel better about yourself. I'm sure your family loves you and I seriously doubt that they like her any better just because of her looks.
2006-12-16 23:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, and this person was visiting for the hols and I felt they were getting more attention than me, the the point that it was a problem for me emotionally, I would seek counseling as they SHOULD be getting more attention, they are a visitor.
2006-12-16 23:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋