How do I tell my daughter no?

Question

How do I try to break my 4yr old from holding our 6wk old puppy all the time, when ever we tell her no she has a fit and screams, please help.

Answer 1

Let her have a fit.

Everytime you cave it just re enforces her actions.

Let her scream and cry. She'll learn.

Poor puppy.

:)

Answer 2

At that age redirection works well. Just take the puppy away and replace with some other activity. Like " Let's put the puppy down and play dolls" or whatever distracts her. Also you want to encourage her to treat the puppy well so when you see her doing that praise her a lot. Teach her that the puppy is a baby and that she can hurt it on accident. Explaining things to her before she starts carrying the puppy helps too.

Answer 3

It's really hard for this age group to handle. It's normal for them to react in screaming way which we usually call temper tantrums. So if you want to break a hold on your 4year old, be consistent in giving instructions and when you say No, be firm. And when she starts to scream, just ignore her. or you can distarct her by giving another activity that will make her forget about the puppy thing... =)

Answer 4

I think you should give the puppy to someone else when your daughter is sleeping or busy playing. Before your daughter asks you where is the puppy, u ask her. Ofcourse there will be some screaming but then later she will just get use to not seeing the puppy around her. MAY BE it will work

Answer 5

The people who answer this have no idea- they don't have kids.
I do- if it is really bad- scold her, smack her (without undue force) and tell her if she's ever so naughty again- she'll never get to hold the puppy.
BUT- if she is a good girl, she gets to play with the puppy for longer (make sure you supervise so she doesn't unintentionally hurt the animal).
When she behaves badly, scold her. When she behaves well, reward her and keep repeating what kind of behaviour is expected to attain the benefits/desires/treats that she wants.
Train your child that she has to behave in order to get her way and DO NOT EVER LET HER WIN!!!
Your job is as parent and care-giver, not as her friend- you have to be firm, tough but always loving.

Answer 6

Children, like all humans,
have Four sides . . .

1. Physical (The Body)
You feed, clothe and keep them active and in good shape.

2. Mental (The Brain)
You send them to school to be educated.

3. Emotional (The Heart)
It, too, must be educated. Done by the parents – YOU – at home.

4. Spiritual (Your Faith)
Gives meaning to life. Without it, the other three do not satisfy us.

Taking care of all four sides produces a "well rounded" individual. As the parent, your obligation is to see that all four sides of your child are cared for and developed. After all, what is a parent for? Are you just a caretaker? A warden? No. You are, and must see yourself as, Teacher, Mentor, Coach, Guide and Cheerleader all rolled into one. You'll notice that teachers, mentors, coaches and guides not only teach their protégés but also correct them, however, you'll also notice that Critic is not on the list. See your child as your protégé.

Answer 7

My niece used to throw fits when she did not get her way.what finally was done was when she started a tantrum we all acted as if she wasn't there when she stopped then talked to her she soon learn ed that the behaviour was unacceptable and quit.but if you give in to the behaviour she will do it because you are teaching her it is an acceptable response and that she will get what she wants every time she does it she will do it more.

Answer 8

sounds like u r the 1 who needs help. as long as u give in to her whining, u r showing her u r not serious about what u say. firmness is not mean, just set some boundaries and it will work out in a few weeks.

Answer 9

let her cry she will be alright if you give into it then she will continue to do it