I have had countless bfs, but there are 3 that i consider them well mannered enough to bring home and introduce to my family.
They are usually nice to him in the first place, then as days gone by, they start taking advantage of him, like asking him to give them free rides when it's totally inconvinent.
And the way they asked him is as though informing him, not asking for a favour,like he has to do it.
They call him names and instead of feeling ashame in front of him, they requested free rides.
I really love my current bf and he did comment that he dislike their behaviour, during the days my bf stayed with my at my mom's house, he paid rent, and my mom treated him like GOD...
now we've both moved out, my mom...or rather my family hates him, thking that he steal me away from them.
I love my family but i love my bf too. wot shld i do?
2006-12-16 23:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to let the negative things your parents say to you about your bf's go in one ear & out the other.
However, they're going too far when they take advantage of them or treat them with disrespect by calling them names. It is inexcusable when they say these things directly to your bf's & should not be tolerated.
Perhaps you can sit down with them & calmly ask them to stop doing this. If they're not receptive, maybe you should keep your bf's away from them. And when you get serious enuf about some guy to marry him, reduce the time he must be with them. You could visit them alone most of the time.
I'm sorry you must deal with parents who seem to lack any manners or consideration of others & are disrespectful to you & your friends.
2006-12-16 23:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your family sounds really dysfunctional.
It seems like your bf's are too nice. Not that there is something wrong with that, but your family reads "nice" as "pushover" and it seems so far he's going along with it. Probably because he loves you.
But your family knows that isn't going to last. One of these days the guy is actually going to stand up to your family and you'll have to make a choice between the two.
I would have a talk with your family. Tell them that you feel like they don't like or respect your bf. Ask them why. Listen. They may have good reasons that you're not picking up on. Or they could just be jealous that you're not going to be at their beck and call anymore. But you do need to tell them, that if they continue to mistreat your bf, that they may lose you because of it. If there only concern is losing you, thats selfish and toxic. Its not a good way to live your life.
If your family really loves you, they will accept him. (unless your bf is some kind of abuser or serial killer, then they have every right to hate him).
2006-12-16 23:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you must realize is that our parents main concern is thier children...even if they're grown. It sounds like your parents are just worried about you and instead of being mad at you they blame the boyfriend. I think that;s pretty normal. No one will ever be good enough for their child. Just be thankful that your parents love you and care about you. Many people are alone with no one who cares this time of year. Try to understand that they really do have your best interest at heart.
2006-12-16 23:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family does not hate you. I am sure they have their reasons. I guess that what you ought to do is talk to them about their behaviour, and tell them how you feel. Also, your family might just resent your BF because they are afraid he will take you away. I guess you could also reassure them that you'll always love them no matter what. Good Luck!
2006-12-16 23:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by rubyprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how young are you? you don't even know out of the three bf's you have if you love them or not. ur life sounds so complicated. love ur family and focus on u and discover what love really is.
2006-12-16 23:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Juanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your famly are just being protective of you, but that's nothing unusual when it comes to a daughter, even my parents were protective of my sister when she lived with us.
2006-12-16 23:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
err .... i think that they are just over protective of you ...
or maybe , they wanted to test if his feelings are real for you .
cuz if it was .
then he wont be scared off .
2006-12-16 23:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by precious moments babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't hate you, they just want to control you...
My advice.. live your life.
2006-12-16 23:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by cleanguy4cleanfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋