14 yrs..we're both christians...somehow the long engagement reduced our relationship to something like we're more like the best of friends now more than anything else...here comes a chatmate , a catholic..whom i had become close,,we've been chatting almost everyday...he courted me and since i thought he is too far and am safe anyway, i answered him as my virtual bf...now he plans to come and see me and my family...i do like this guy...i am excited ..not to mention ive lost any romantic notions with my present bf here.he is offering marriage something my present bf never did before becoz he is a non commitment guy...admittedly i am willing to take the chance ...my religous belief tells us not to marry someone who has a different belief...pls tell me if this is madness.thanx
2006-12-16 22:54:10 · 3 answers · asked by margarita_76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, i think your present bf has rubbed off some of his non comitment on you and now you've gone mad, meet this guy, yes with your family and decide whether you want to marry him or not, he still exists only on the net remember,and do you believe you must marry someone who believes everything you believe?
2006-12-16 23:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by waganangu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you're taking a big chance on this online chat friend. You never know who you are really talking to and to put a 14 yr relationship on the line is a big gamble. Have you been honest with your boyfriend about how you feel? If not, maybe you should try working on your present relationship together after investing 14 yrs of your life in it. Ot sounds like maybe you've just been together so long you've started to both just take it for granted that the other one will always be there. Only you know what's best for you really, but my advise would be to try to get the sparks back in your current relationship. The grass isn't a;ways greener on the other side. Good Luck.
2006-12-16 23:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never know for sure unless you meet your new chat mate. And you will always wounder. So I say go for it! But be very cautious. And if it isn't what you thought it would be at least you made a very good friend. But you really need to consider your boyfriends feelings. He needs to know how you feel about him. He deserves to have someone who really loves him and who wants to be with him. Even if it isn't you. Yes it is madness but if you truly aren't happy than you need to let go. As far as your religious beliefs that is something you two will have to work out over time. But do not lose your faith. Lots of luck.
2006-12-17 00:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by just peachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋