I can't remember the last time I ever cared about anyone (maybe I never have). But, everytime I act caring, I do it just for the sake o being caring... not because I GENUINELY care. How can I learn to genuinely care about others and not just mimic it?
2006-12-16 22:34:37 · 10 answers · asked by Daniel B 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all you have to look at yourself and ask yourself, how do you feel about yourself? Do you have low self-esteem, do you love yourself, or even like yourself? If the answer is no to any of these, then you need to get help to resolve your own problems you may have. Then when you can actually say that you love yourself, and you are an ok person. That is when you can start feeling what others are feeling. You then can start to really care about someone, that is in your life. Or even someone you just meant. Just saying like you are now that you care is lieing to yourself. That is not helping. You really need to find out why you are not a caring person, and it is usually cause you have been around people that don't care about anything or anyone, or someone close to you, that should of cared for you you, never showed you that they cared, and so that is how you are now. So please really look inside of your self and ask yourself how you really feel about yourself, if you love yourself, cause you really need to do that, so you can love and care genunely for others.
2006-12-17 03:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Genuine Caring
2016-12-15 07:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better not care about whether or not you are acting caring or being genuinely caring.. when you do this then you are going and submerging yourself if not working it out to being a genuinely caring person. When we become not mindful of our good acts then we become the true caring person that we want to become. Being a genuinely caring person is not really that hard after all!
2006-12-16 22:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Anthony B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. You should care about the people you genuinely care for and still care about others that you feel need caring but don't have a genuine calling. Doing otherwise may make you suffer mental problems yourself.
2006-12-16 22:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck Dhue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know you aren't genuinely caring? However, one thing I have done is think about what I like about that person. Also, journal about the perosn. Write all the stuff that you do like on one side, and all the things you don't like.
But it sounds like you've been hurt pretty deep by some one at one time another. Our reluctance to care for people usually comes from fear of being hurt; or anger that someone we cared for left us. (either in death, move, divorce, or just left us). It is actually a trust issue, and a way we take care of ourselves, so we don't get hurt either again, or being afraid of being hurt! If I don't care, then I won't get hurt, which usually is a form of denial. Also, if we don't care, then we don't have to work at changing any thing in ourselves to be acceptable to others. We can go on being just the way we want to be. It takes less responsibility to not care then it does to care for others.
Anyway, just think about what you like about that person, or admire in them, sometimes that helps.
2006-12-16 22:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only when you learn more about the people around you will you succeed more. You want to be accepted by all as you care for them. Well it is impossible. You must seek out others only if they are like you . Loners are not welcomed by the winner-player people. Start to develop some concepts of your own The socially right concepts are for the world in general not one type of person.
2006-12-16 23:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey , you can care about anyone , if u love to care and love is an verb so just solve others prob and be nice to everyone around u and stay coool keep cheering be happy dont think about this mimic feeling. As long as you are doing something without any materiallistic motive ,you are nice .
have a nice day!
2006-12-16 23:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by geniusgearguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you would have to find someone who "Genuinely" cared about you, and from what I am thinking that has never happened to you.
2006-12-16 22:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Hopperofweeds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely care about someone [love them], you sacrifice for them, putting thier needs ahead of yours. By being selfless, instead of being seldfish.
2006-12-16 22:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something, or someone has turned you off for whatever reason, and I feel that there is a fire kindling inside,..it just needs to be lit again with trust...and when that happens, you will once again begin to feel empathy for others...
2006-12-17 00:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋