When dating as a single parent, how can you tell if the opposite sex is acctually accepting of your child. How long should you wait before introducing this person to your child. Do guys find it a turn off if a female is a single parent(sole custody, no involvement from the biological father). How do you know if you are ready to begin dating again to begin with.
2006-12-16 20:28:53 · 12 answers · asked by onearkansasmommy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was/am in yr position. as a mother yr instinct will give off warning bells as did with me, also yr child will be a good judge of character, children usually are (thats if he/she is old enough). i waited almost 6 months to introduce at home, but did so outside of our home. i never worried if guys thought it was a turn-off, it was me and my children or nothing, they knew what the deal was, my children are my greatest assets. my childrens father has nothing to do with them, i think this is so sad, yet easier if i were to have a b/f. lastly, you will know within you, when the time for dating is right. its been 2 yrs for me, and im just "thinking" about it now.
2006-12-16 20:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dating a single parent is a terrible idea:
1) The new b/f or g/f will always be secondary, at best and the kid takes priority, as it should be, but it means they will be getting less from a single parent than they would in a relationship with someone without a kid.
2) Planning dates is more difficult b/c babysitter plans must be made
3) There is always the possibility that the Dad will re-appear and then always be in both of your lives.
4) The b/f or g/f is now facing the possibility of losing two people he/she gets attached to if the relationship ends and he/she has developed a relationship with the kid
5) The g/f or b/f must be ready to start acting like a parent even though they really aren't one.
Dating a single parent is something I'd advise my friends against doing.
2006-12-16 20:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by FSJD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because i am a single parent i know about this a little.......to tell if they are excepting your child just watch their actions with the child and watch weither or not they want your child around. now days guys dont think a lot about females being a single parent it is hard to find one that isnt. as far as when you should introduce your child to this person do it when you are comfortable with the person and you thinkk it may turn into a long relationship ............what ever you decide good luck and remember you are not alone there are a lot of single parents out there.
2006-12-16 20:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have them meet your child asap. Because im sure you feel its a complete pacage you and your child it lets things get into the open before you invest feelings into it. And it takes time to see what this person thinks of your child watch how the react body language and everything. You can tell if they really enjoy your childs company. last part i think u will know when your ready just dont start because it will make you feel better or to get revenge do it when you fell the need to be loved not lust lol hope this helps
2006-12-16 20:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by bill_will76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single parent, shared custody. I heard the phrase that " you know you're ready to date when you feel strong enough to have your heart broken. " No, a person should not expect to have their heart broken, yet your answer to this question will be a signal to yourself how emotionally strong and of self value you are at to go out into the dating world again. Regarding the kids in meeting any may I might be dating at the time. I don't have a man meet my kids until I know if I myself if I'm interested in him being someone I'd want to more of. In my two years of dating, only one man has met my kids. I don't ' float ' men in front of my kids when that man may not even be around for more than three weeks because something that was discovered that the two of you don't mesh in styles of relating. Also, I only go out on a date when my kids are having time with their dad. My dating life is my own personal business. My kids are aware I do date, but I don't shove it in front of them. Unless I've come to know a man more and have more interest in him, my dating is my business, not my kids. And, should I meet a man who does'nt get along with my kids . . . I'd end the relationship. My kids over my own heart with a man ?...No contest...my kids. For now...I've ' benched ' myself, taking a breather from dating to re-group, reflect and grow in awareness of the ways of relating out there.
2006-12-16 20:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a gal that had 8 kids,we all got along great,it was just bad timing cause we was getting ready to move back to Texas.The kids and me had a blast for the 2 months i knew them,i don't mind dating women with kids,they seem to be done with all the game playing in the dating world.I except the fact that the kids come first,they should.I know what i am getting into with single moms.
2006-12-17 08:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by crazycul1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a difficult one i was struggling with myself. But you just have to move on and when you meet someone be honest with them and don't let anything change attention wise to your child. Just put yourself out there and don't be afraid to try. Wait awhile to introduce them so you can thoroughly make sure they are not weirdos but don't exclude your kids from the beggining of the relationship.
2006-12-16 20:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mum of 3, but i only kept my daughter, and left my boys with my parents, i did find that guy who loved my kids and accepted them, we started as friends (i met him through work). I would have the social drink over his place and got to know him better and he got to know me too so it was quite easy to let him know,we now have our own daughter and we are going to get married. my kids are 9, 6, 2!/2. so there is guys out there that would like to date a single parent. GO 4 it mum, you wont know unless you give it a go.
2006-12-16 20:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your heart will tell you when the time is right. If any man refuses to accept your child, as part of the deal, break it off and run fast. His attitude toward your child usually worsens towards them once you are married!
2006-12-16 20:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have to be sure that someone will accept ur kid before u introduce a new partner in his life,kids are sensitive and if the relation it doesnt work he will get hurt,i think u have to wait some time and be careful cause there's people who doesnt like kids at all............good luck
2006-12-16 20:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋