i am single at the moment. i may be wrong in doing this but i now have expectations about how my next girl should be. and one of the criterias is that she should be hot.
there are 3 girls interested in me, one of which is really really interested, lets just call her 'C'. but neither of them satisfies the expectations i have.
should i go out with 'C' so that i don't end up disappointing her or should i wait untill i find someone who actually has the things that i am looking for?
I have this feeling that 'C' is looking for something long term, but i am not sure. but if she is, then she's going to be really disappointed if she finds out that she doesn't come up to my expectations.
is it bad to have expectations?
2006-12-16 20:18:17 · 18 answers · asked by TheInsider 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Geez! With so many different answers, how do I know what to do, what's right and what's not?
2006-12-18 18:43:00 · update #1
Why are you afraid of long term relationships? And yes, it is OK to have some expectations. Just be reasonable and you'll be fine. I don't know if the "hot" criteria is reasonable for you. Good luck!
2006-12-16 20:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm you should be more open. I don't think having expectations would really help you finding the right girl because by having expectations, girl would have to be perfect for your point of view, and no one is perfect. And the quesiton about that C person, if you don't feel much attraction then don't go out with her, you will just end up breaking her heart if you do. Be open minded. (by the way, you sound really young, how old are you?)
2006-12-16 20:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by 1jizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not what you want, and you know that, then it's unfair to both of you for you to go out with her just to keep her from being disappointed. You may miss out on the girl you're looking for because you're dating someone else, and "C" will think that she's what you want...
It has a chance of ending really badly for both of you, so unless you're really hard up and feel like you HAVE to be dating someone right this minute, you should hold out for someone who meets your expectations.
2006-12-16 20:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by fairygothmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having expectations is your own personal choice. There is nothing wrong with it. However, dating someone that does not meet those expectations is wrong if you know you are just going to end up braking up with her anyway. If you would rather trade all of "C's" good qualitites as soon as a hottie comes along, then don't even start a relationship with her. It is not fair to her and shows really bad character. If hottness is that important, then just wait for miss right to come along...
2006-12-16 20:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get with this girl if you're not truely interested in her. It would better for her to be let down because you don't want to be in a long term relation than to have her find out that she's your second choice because she doesn't meet all of your expectations. It's not bad to have expectations if they come with morals and good reasoning (that's my opinion).
2006-12-16 20:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by miss_lady404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather you have expectations instead of just being in a relationship and then breaking someones heart. Put yourself in "c" shoes and ask yourself what would you want, it's really painful breaking someones heart when all along you knew what you wanted in the first place. Take other people feeling into consideration and stop and think about the consequences later.... Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-16 20:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by TAE M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always good to have expectations but if you know it's not gonna work then don't even try - just wait 'til you see the next "hot" girl that will meet more of your expectations. Guys do this alot - they'll be with 75% girl and when they're with him, they'll notice another girl who's 90% - better than the one they're with...then you're screwed...so don't bother and just wait...there's plenty of hot girls!
2006-12-16 20:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your priorities messed up. She should be beautiful on the inside. The outside is merely a shell. If she's hot on the outside and ugly on the inside, how happy do you think she's really going to make you. AND ... You probably won't meet her expectations if she's ugly on the inside. I see this going no where unless you get your priorities straight. Good luck.
2006-12-16 20:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this the hot one is also looking for the hot one but always looking for the next hot one never lasts too long do it for fun but don't get caught up with them usually end up being high maintenance.
2006-12-16 20:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by bill_will76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is great to have some kind of expectations, but i don't think girls nor guys like that much when the other has some kind of values or wants from them. Love is giving than expecting.
2006-12-16 20:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋