My bf and I have dated for almost 4 years. I am 24 and he is 25. I think he is the one and I want to spend my life with him. Everytime I talked to him about it, he just kinda ignored me. He said," what's the rush?", and I kinda agreed that we are still a bit young. What should I do?
2006-12-16 20:08:24 · 16 answers · asked by Mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was engaged cause I pushed him into it....I regretted it...he cheated on me and married another girl......so, think two years and he did this ....don't push him into marriage.....just enjoy the moments you have and if it's meant to be ...he will ask you
2006-12-17 06:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jammie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not sure. You said "I think he is the one" instead of "I know" and that you kinda agree that you are young. So wait! If you are not even sure then there is no way he is any better off. If you are still in school wait until you are done with school...then if he hasn't mentioned it you need to have a loooong and serious discussion about the future.
2006-12-16 22:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush? Enjoy each other. It seems like people rush into marriage and then divorce. After you get married most will go on to have children and it is so stressfull. HAVE FUN!!! You are both young. travel!
2006-12-17 07:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him towards marriage, because you might end up pushing him away. I think he is right...if you know that you want to be with him, then there is no rush! Enjoy being a couple and go out and have fun...once marriage comes, the kids follow close behind and then your time will be taken up with otehr obligations.
2006-12-17 08:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Don't be in any hurry to get married. You'll regret it later. If it's meant to happen, it will happen.
Besides, you're only 24. If he still refuses to pop the question at 28, it's time to push for an ultimatum.
But for now, let things be.
2006-12-16 20:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
at your age and you been together for 4 yrs. you are not rushing! start dating other guys really. you are wasting time. if you were younger it would be different. dont waste time on this jerk. sorry if i hurt your feelings. but it's what i know from being older. he's too old to be thinking you rushing when you have been dating for four years. he isnt inlove with you. face reality and move on.
2006-12-16 20:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by prettysexycalves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the best thing to do is wait, Don't push him into it, You might just push him away, Besides, the only thing that changes after you get married is you name, there is really no rush...
2006-12-16 22:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by goin_truck_racin06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't seem ready.. if he's still with you and it's been 4 years he sounds serious about the relationship... wait for him to be ready... if you pressure him he might not feel too good. If you truly love him you'll wait and if he truly loves you he'll propose when the time is right.
2006-12-16 20:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wrote "I THINK he is the one."
Hmm...are you sure? I think when you know you just know.
You need to have a sit down talk with him about what it is you want and what your life goals are. If they aren't the same as his, move on, sister.
You're not too young. Don't make excuses for him.
2006-12-18 02:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush, 50% of marriages end up in divorce. and majority of them said he is the one i will spend the rest of my life with. get real ok? emotions cant be trusted ok girl?
2006-12-17 02:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋