I've been talking to this one dude for a year now, he's a great guy from what I can tell online, we spoke a couple of times on the phone and he agrees we should meet in person. But I am not so sure. Any suggestions? I live in California.
2006-12-16 19:58:28 · 12 answers · asked by Foxtrot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very cautious with all the things going with people meeting after conversation on line and the phone. Don't get me wrong it works for some but you just never know. If you decide to do it make sure you leave information with your family and friends as to where you are going to meet and all you know about that person as well as their screen name.Then take someone with you as well as a phone with 911 on speed dial. Give them a deadline that if they don't hear from you guys to start calling the police and sending for help. Most important meet in a public place where you can scream fro help if you need to.You have to have a plan like this because you never know what you are getting into.
2006-12-16 20:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Audrey : 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! I know you've heard both good and bad AND deadly and dangerous stories about internet relationships and encounters. Yeah, he may seem like a good guy but be aware that many predators are VERY VERY patient and will try to befriend a victim or as long as it takes just do casue harm. On the other hand: if he is TRULY legit and who he really claims to be, then he wouldn't have ANY problem with you telling close family or friends about him AND have someone trusting go with you to meet said person... If that suggestion makes him mad or causes him to make you feel guilty about doubting him, then honey: he's a phoney!!! True friends won't mind safety in numbers... make sure you have a plan B... tell a relative and friend that you will call them when the meeting takes place AND at 15- 30 minutes into the meeting as well as when it is over and when you arrive home safely... should a phone call be missed... that's a sign you and your safety buddy are in danger. Good Luck and seriously consider who you talk to. The onternet has become a nasty place these days. Also, if you are under 18... DO NOT under any circumstances meet with anyone, regardless if you or that guy think you are mature for your age... most of us ARE maturing sooner but htat doesn't mean we have to trust strangers. Take care!!! and listen to your gut... the good one that is!!!
2006-12-17 04:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew, I wouldn't recommend it. I mean, he may be a great guy and that's awesome if he is. But to travel all the way across the United States to meet a guy is a little much. If he's interested in you he can come visit you.
I'd be careful if not cautious on this one if I were you. Better to play it safe. Answer these three questions?
How well do you know him? I mean details, not what he's told you but what you have verified. Have you considered a private investigator? If no, why not? What's your plan to guarantee your personal safety?
The least you could do is call the local police department where he lives and check up on him by name. A driver's license number would help.
2006-12-17 04:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone is going to visit anyone, it should be the guy chasing the female!!!! Let him spend his bucks, and take the big chance, not the female. The normally asks the female out on a date, and yes he usually pays. So, let a man be a man!!!!! So, if for some reason things don't work out, we have some female walking the streets of COLD Philly!!!!! GREAT!!!!
2006-12-17 04:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - even if he is not a psycho, he should be the one doing the travelling, not you. At least you should meet somewhere halfway - and be sure to do it in a public place. Bring a friend if possible.
2006-12-17 04:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Doyle Hargraves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider your age; and you might want to bring a friend if you feel comfortable meeting him somewhere (it should be a public place). Good luck.
2006-12-17 04:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him come to you. I have heard lots of bad stories.
If you are a reasonably prudent person, go with your gut.
If you are a risky person, there are smarter (and more fun) ways to utilize that risk.....
good luck.
2006-12-17 04:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by ca_kerri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a great idead but take someone with you me and my fiance met online and all is well, but be safe about it
2006-12-17 04:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by cpotuna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO GIRL!!! anybody could say they are anybody online, none the wiser. this guy could seem sooo nice or something, say he looks any way, ect............ and be some old, sick, pervert, murderer. don't even consider it!!!
2006-12-17 04:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes gonna come visit you, its cool, but if hes makin you go all the way to penn then hell no!
2006-12-17 04:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by COlder THaN AlaSka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋