I am very boxed in right now in her household and I can't seem to get out on my own due to her and her ways of butting in my affairs that would get me out of her home. I can't afford a car, I can't rent due to her giving me bad credit, I have a child. I really need some input on this, she is driving me insane!
2006-12-16 19:28:58 · 5 answers · asked by Daisey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't work due to health conditions (a heart problem I was born with and agoraphobia) but she sleemost of the day due to her job. When I had an apartment I made the mistake of letting her move in and she gave me bad credit so therefore I can't get into a rental. I'm waiting for SSI but can't take my mothers s!@% when it comes down to where I go, who I'm with, and what I do. I have one friend (boyfriend) who I trust but he lives with a room mate. My mom sabatoged a few of my "escape" ideas, especially when it comes to making money to afford my own home or car. The other side of the story - you'd get this answer from her "I'm just doing whats best for you. What would I do without you and my grandchild?". I'd always respond "hire a maid?". I don't let her know anything in my bank account, I don't tell her about my boyfriend, I don't tell her about my therapy appts., and I don't tell her what I do on the net. (I sell what I can for extra cash flow). Any ideas would be useful.
2006-12-17 07:11:07 · update #1
I will tell u what truth I needed to hear. You can leave. U have options. Where there is a will there is a way. And she won't respect u until u show her that u can make it without her. Set your boundaries. Be consistent. And above all do your best for your child. Regardless of how your relationship ends with your mother he/she will remenber the example YOU set and carry that on. All the best. Contact me for more advice should u need it.
2006-12-16 19:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult, you can make your own decisions and do what's best for you and your child. Stay with a friend and get a job, save enough money to get your own apartment.
2006-12-16 21:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two sides to this story,we only have one,you live in your mothers house,with a child,your boxed in and she buts in,WOW,SHE DRIVING YOU INSANE, there is a saying,parents can look after many children,but children can not look after any parent.THINK about it.???????????
2006-12-16 19:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by chascicc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get a job, or get into some small scale business. this interfrence is because you are dependent on her.Remember its her house not yours, so you are in this state.try to come out of this.
2006-12-16 19:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her privately..tell her what you want..dont forget to remind her that you are old enough to live in your own direction..so, ask her how to make her believe that you can live on your own..
2006-12-16 19:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by badz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋