i am a 16 yr old girl and have been with my bf for 1 1/2 yrs. We have had sex and done everything else. If my mom ever asked me if we have done anything or found out that we have do u think she would be angry. And if you asked your child and they said they had sex would you be mad or happy that they told you
2006-12-16 19:04:37 · 10 answers · asked by luvmyboy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would be absolutely pissed if she lied to me if I asked her straight out. My mom never asked me, and then when I was 17 my step mom tried to have the birthcontrol talk with me - I told her flat out we had been having sex for over 2 years.... kind of stumped her I think.
If she asks TELL HER. She probably already knows that you are having sex. If she doesn't ask, it is out of fear.
Use condoms AND birthcontrol pills EVERY time. In case her head is in the clouds, you wouldn't want her to find out you're having sex by announcing your pregnancy right?
Honestly might shock people sometimes, but it can't come back to haunt you. It is just harder at the time.
2006-12-16 19:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy they told me, in this day and age especially. I don't expect that my children will make it much past 16 before having sex for the first time, sad but true. I want to know when they atart so they get the information they need to make wise decisions about sex, not some second hand urban myth from a friend. I know I can't avoid their sexual activity, so I'd like to make sure that they are responsible about it. I might be a little disappointed depending in their age at the time, but glad they felt they could come to me with the inforamtion. It shows maturity that your child would come to you and say this is what I have done, or am planning to do, and I thought I'd share instead of hiding it and lying to you about it. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-17 03:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by jmj1096 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want my kids to tell me if they were even thinking of having sex. I would take them to the clinic and have them tell my child about EVERYTHING that COULD happen. I would also want to make sure my kids knew about safe sex and how to use safe sex.
I think I would be disappointed if I found out my child was already having sex, but I would still do the same thing. I believe it's never to late to start having safe sex and I would let my child know that although I wish they had waited tell they got married, that I was still going to be there for them no matter what. But if one of my boys (or if I ever have a girl) ever came home and told my they got so and so pregnant (or there pregnant) the first thing I would do is tell them go out and get a JOB. I will support them, but I'm not going to be paying for it!!
2006-12-17 03:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be mad that they are having sex so young...too young to me.
But I would be happy they told me so I know what is going on.
16 is so young to have sex...i mean whyso early, whats the rush?
Enjoy life while you can before all the drama that is "real life" comes to you.
Im 26 and I have a child and my teens went by so fast it was like a blur.
2006-12-17 03:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at 16 my daughter would have told me she had sex I wouldn't be happy about it. I would appreciate that she was being honest but her having sex at 16 would not have made me happy. She had higher goals than become a receptical for some pimple faced geeks sperm. Thank goodness she was smart enough to stick to those goals and obtain them. Now at almost 21 the world is in the palm of her hands.
2006-12-17 03:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be happy, I'd make sure you were on birth control and ask you what you are doing to prevent STD'S. 16 is to young to be having sex. If you got pregnant would you and your boyfriend be prepared to take care of a baby?
2006-12-17 03:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldn't be happy that it was happening, but I would be happy that she felt she could tell me. I would rather that she told me on her own, though, and not me having to ask about it.
It would make me happy to know that my daughter was taking the proper precautions, too.
2006-12-17 03:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy that they told me. It shows maturity. if you're ready to have sex then you should be ready to admit that you are and take responsibility for your choices. I told my Mom when I was 17 that I was having sex with my boyfriend of 2 years and she took me to the doctor to get on the birth control pill. She wasn't happy at first but she later appreciated my honesty. At least she couldn't accuse me of hiding things form her and lying.
2006-12-17 03:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should talk to your parents about this,its always important to have ur parents trust,they mite be mad and they mite not be,if my children were having sex and didnt tell me i would be upset because children r supposed to be able to tell their parents how they feel. just remember to always be safe!!
2006-12-17 03:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by melodeetoner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me,,i'd say she proably already knows.
as far as asking my own children that question?well,i think they were responsible enough to know what they were doing and,i didn't pry into their "personal"life unless they came to me.
2006-12-17 03:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋