i've never tried drugs, not any, never smoked cigarettes, not even tried it, never tasted alcohol. i seriously can't remember more than a few good memories and a few bad ones. is that normal?
2006-12-16 18:50:32 · 12 answers · asked by sunnie m 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's a little unusual, but not extraordinarily rare.
The odds are good that you have MANY more memories of that time than it seems. What's really happening is that you are unable to consciously do an "on demand" recall of more than few memories from the early part of your life. That doesn't mean that the memories aren't there, and you will find all sorts of things will bring them back from time to time. Sounds, words, music, visuals -- and particularly smells -- will abruptly activate memories from as far back as 2 years old (though most people don't have concrete memories before 3-4 years old).
What you're experiencing doesn't mean anything is wrong with you -- so stop worrying about it if you have been.
2006-12-16 19:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mark H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't remember anything before I was 9 years old due to something that happened to me. I know the reason why and because of this it doesn't really bother me that I have no memories, they are probably there, but without therapy, or hypnosis of some sort I will probably block them out for good. The only thing that does bother me is the period I can't remember was probably the happiest of my life, I can only remember from when the bad stuff started, which is probably unusual, as its normally the other way round. Your memories are probably still there as well, but it depends from person to person on how much they remember from their youth. Have you tried looking at photos to jog your memory or asking your family about things? I wouldn't worry about it though, if nothing bad has ever happened to you and youve never done drugs then its just your memory and theres nothing wrong with not being able to recall events from years ago.
2006-12-16 22:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by eeore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first answer to that is no. I remember clear back to when I was 2, which may not be normal either. But when we have lapses in our memories like you seem to have, then my first guess would be that your brain has forgotten on purpose for what ever reason, usually trauma or abuse of any kind. I hadn't remembered my uncle coming to see us at all; when I was 43 I asked my Mom why; she was horrified that I had forgotten, then I remembered; he had been molesting me since I was 2, and Dad caught him when I was 4, causing Dad to throw him out of the house. But, yes you can honestly forget stuff when younger. I would suggest you start writing about your childhood. You start writing where you remember from. Then continue to write. With me, as I am writing, new insights will surface, and I'm able to work it out on paper. (it's called Journaling) You can also decide to write a story, a story about yourself. It's amazing how much you all of a sudden start to remember! My Son doesn't remember a lot of his childhood, as his childhood wasn't all that great either. (mine was better, but his was full of abuse from his Dad, and I was sick a LOT!) So our brain tends to make us forget the painful stuff. Our brains are like an onion, it peels off a layer at a time. The most recent stuff first, then it continues. So I hope you find yourself. Without memories, we really don't know who we are, or what we are made of until we have those memories back. However, you can live a very good life without remembering, but some times it will bite you on the butt when you are least expecting. You know what that childood is, it's how we base our decisions that we make as adults. (unconscienciously). Also, there are some very good self help books on the market that helps, one is "COURAGE TO HEAL" was my favorite one. There's another one out there "HEALING THE CHILD WITHIN" which is also very good. I read the second one first, and the first one second. Both were insturmental in my growth.
If you get over whelmed, which you may, seek help! A lot of the 12-Step programs are very good for this work as well. You don't have to have an addiction to use these. Alan-non is good, but so is EA, which is Emotions Anonyous, but good luck in finding one. Many cities offers free help as well through their mental health programs. Any way, learn to grow.
2006-12-16 21:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that just means you had a good life, because we tend to remember the bad things more than the good ones. I have no memories from 0-5 and that really bothers me. My dad died tragically when I was 5 and I can't remember him at all. Nothing. I know things that people have told me, but they are not my memories. I really wish I could remember something about my father because according to relatives, he was a great man, funny, gentle, hard-working, and he loved me(his only child)with all his heart. I have even thought about hypnosis to try and remember, but have not tried it. Maybe the trauma of his death wiped my memories clean. My first memory is being awakened by my mother telling me my dad was dead. And the funeral, I remember all of it, but nothing before. Not a kiss or a hug. Sad, isn't it? So be glad you have any memories and not just tragic ones.
2006-12-16 18:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by nesmith52 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 09:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it is quite normal... Memories are in the subconscious so you can't actually remember all of them. Sometimes deeper ones will need triggers like a particular scent; the smell of cookies, or your mother's perfume. Don't be alarmed by what you can't remember. It will come back to you bit by bit. I have this experience too.
2006-12-16 18:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by stellar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. That is really not normal at all. I am not sure, but you might be blocking out memories for a reason. I think maybe you should talk to a professional if you can remember to do so. They might be able to hypnotize you and find out where your other memories went and why.
2006-12-16 18:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No that isn't normal at all. This is called "blacking out" or regression. I had to see a therapist about my black outs (I blacked out age 12 to 22). It is because something really bad or hurtful made the chemistry in your head "black out" or "block out" the painful memories so that you can survive them and go on in life. It could have been that you watched your parents fight, to a sibling that was very cruel and harsh to you. I would suggest going to your counties free mental health provider and look into seeing a therapist. It will take a few years to regain what happened but it is worth looking into.
2006-12-16 18:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Daisey 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
atleast u remember 5
2006-12-16 18:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no go to the doctor and let the doctor check u up
2006-12-16 18:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋