My elder sister is 2 year my senior. We were very closer when we were younger but we are now very different people with different views, she has growns slightly fatter and she is always angry!
Her friends avoided her, and whever i want to hang out with my own friends she will be pissed that im leaving her alone.
I fancy a guy and i told her, to my horror she text him and suggested something sexual!
I confronted her and i told her since u like him so much i will nt contact him anymore but i want her to knw that i am hurt, she jsut say "IF U DUN WNT HIM ANYMORE, SO DO I, AS ITS NOT CHALLENGING ANYMORE!"
I am so troubled with her. What should i do?
2006-12-16 18:44:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
geez, your sister...sounds mean. just ask her why she feels like she has to compete with you, but do it in a nice way. tell her you love her and that you think that she's already really good in everything she does. encourage her and boost up her self-esteem. if her problem is her weight, then tell her that she looks fine and if she wants, you can go jogging or work out with her at a gym or something. as for your feelings, tell her that it makes you sad that your sister feels that she needs to compete with you. tell her how you feel and try to understand and make her understand how both of you are feeling. hope everything works out!
2006-12-16 18:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fey Lin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIrst off, it sounds like her problem is depression and poor self worth, but all you can do about that is suggest she get treatment.
To solve the problem: Ignore her. The problem is your reaction more than her behavior (no matter how awful it is!!!) because that is all you can control, your reaction. You will feel much better if you no longer share things like this with her. It is awful to cut your sister out of your daily life, aside from things like pass the rashers please, but until she can learn to be a sister you will need to.
I'm sorry you are going through this, it must be very tough. I went through the same with my brothers and did not talk to them for about 20 years (including time spent living in the same house) and we are FINALLY able to treat each other with respect now that they realize I can live without them.
GOOD LUCK! HTH
2006-12-16 18:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I have a horrible sister too... :(
I can't offer you a solution until I find a way to solve that exact same problem in my life, so I will only wish you the best. :)
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-16 18:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're hurt to what she's doing! People aren't supposed to be competitive! It's such a bad thing! Just have a conversation with her!
2006-12-16 19:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pawie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok everyone have his way of thinking
but u should get closer to her may be there is some one who really hurt her like her friends
u should find out why she always angry may be there someone who always calling her bad words
u should not talk to that guy anymore and she should not to talk to him too cause may be he is bad guy
u go to her and tell her some secerets and u tell her u do trust her and then wait
and plz reply me about wt happend!!!
2006-12-16 18:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your larda s s sister got what she wanted. She wants you to be as unhappy as she is. I'd tell Porky that she needs to find a new sister.
2006-12-16 18:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i have a smiliar problem!!!! i have 3 years oler than my sister and shes got bigger ones then me:( but its okay i used to get upset but then i realized that its not all that matters. my sister is really mean anyway so she didnt do this but find things that shes good at or find something that you like more about her and TELL her it will make her feel really good about herself. she will find someone without taking him from you. and its your sister so your going to have to live with it until she grows out of it. sorry!!
2006-12-16 18:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by cali_girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she just wants to prove that she's better than you. she's seeking for attention, that's all really. if u have tried talking to her and if ur parents have talked to her and she still doesn't get it, i suggest u just leave her be. one day, she'll learn from this.
2006-12-16 18:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean...my sister wich she's 4 yrs younger than me always want to compete...but i dont see it that way...i jus let it be and have her hate. lol
2006-12-16 18:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-16 19:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋