I had a fight with the gf. but I only got 4 decent answers so im asking again? I think im in love?

Question

we have been together for 6 months and i feel really bad bacause im a super jealous guy, and i need to get her somthing for christmas that will show her that im sorry and how i really feel about her, and i dont htink that just a kiss hug and flowers will do it?! HELP!!!!!!!!! She went to a basketball game with my bestfriend to watch his girlfriend, and i knew nothing about it, I got super pissed, and she threw it all on me, I know there is nothing goin on but i still got pissed and i feel bad now im mad a him and her. I dont want to make a huge commitment because im still trying to make my music career and there will be over 1500 miles distance, but I dont wanna screw it up because of this. This is the absolutely most retarded thing ever. Im stuck with working and playing gigs, and im stressed as hell, and i think i might be taking it out on her and others, especially her. Please help me! im desperate. I have an attitude towards most people im happy with her but others im not

Answer 1

Dude, 1500 miles? You're dreaming the impossible dream, man. Get a woman near where you are. Fortunately for you, women fawn over musicians. Good night!

Answer 2

If you want this thing to work, you need to give her the space. You need to learn and trust her. It sounds like you have more of a security issue than anything. I don't think it was the fact that if she told you or not, i think you feel insecure about her. To be in a relationship, you need to know your relationship. You need to know where you stand with her and you need to believe that she is not up to no good. And secondly, she is human, she has friends, and she has all the right to go out, without telling you, so as long as she is not cheating on you or anything.

You're trying to make it into the music industry, and if one day you become successful, there will be times when you will be out with girls and guys. And of course you would expect her to trust you and respect that you have to right to go out as well. If you're working all the time, you can't expect her to stay home and do nothing..

Don't take your stress out on her, it will only put more strain on your relationship.

As for a present, maybe you could get her a nekclace or something. Girls always like a nice outfit or something too. Flowers and candies are overrated, if you're a singer, write her a song and sing it to her or something. Take some time away from your busy schedule and take her out to a nice night out (without any interruptions)

Answer 3

I'm not sure if this is about "Love", "Domination" or "Trust".
Its good that you want to keep your music career going...
Long distance relationships are "Very hard" to keep.
You admitt your a jellous man, and that is't very good.
To SOME point its ok, but, I think your in Overdrive.
Yes, having gigs all the time is a good thing (Employment),
But, it also can stress you out. and I'm sure you've heard the saying..."You always hurt the one you love".
Your gonna have to lighten-up a bit on your girlfriend, if she wants to go out with her friends, so be it...
Then again, she should let you know who and where shes going or where she's been.
1500 miles is a LONG DISTANCE. and you are going to need Trust between you...Trust and Love, MUST go hand-n-hand.
I'm sure you know what the bar scences are like, so I'm guessing your aftraid of that for her. (although you didn't say you played in bars).
I don't know how financially set you are, but is marriage in the future, if so, maybe an engagement ring?
This way she could be with you, unless of course your living at a dorm at a university studying music, then I'm sure she probably coulndn't live with you.
I hope this helps some...Good Luck.

Answer 4

Dude, a reality check. You not willing to make a commitment, and yet you expecting her to let you know where she is at all times is asking her to be totally committed to you, mainly because you're jealous ie. you have a hard time trusting.
If this is ever going to work it is going to take more than temporary gestures to regain ones good graces. If you love this person and want to spend the rest of your life with her then make the commitment. If you aren't at that level for whatever reason can you honestly expect her to be committed to you, especially with all of the temptations on the road? Being committed doesn't mean you don't have friends or a life. That jealousy has got to go. I'd say buy her jewelry..

Answer 5

If you want to show her you care and that you are sorry for being jealous a christmas present isnt going to do that...presents and money don't buy love or make up for mistakes. If you want to show her you care tell her how it made you feel and explain that you know its stupid when you get jealous, but it's somethign your willing to work on for her so that your relationship can work. Express to her that you think shes worth your time and that you really care about her and that you will try to work on your jealousy issues but you would also appreciate it if she was upfront and honset with you. It's not something to freak out over, but she should have told her she was going to the game with your friend, it just kinda of strange not to...and it's obvious she needs to communicate with you as well.

Answer 6

You really need to work on overcoming your jealousy. Your jealous actions are showing her how you feel, and a gift will not negate that. Even if you give her something, say you're sorry, and she forgives you, it sounds like you would just have another jealous fit at some point. There are only so many gifts to buy, only so many times to say that you are sorry, and only so many times that she'll forgive. You say that you think that you're in love. It's different for all of us, but I feel that if you are in love, you won't be having such silly jealous fits. Focus on your music for a while. Focus on learning about life. Best luck to you.

Answer 7

Getting mad is normal, the reason you got so mad is cause you love her and are afraid to lose her, the distant has nothing to do with a relationship if you and her trust each other and I suggest buying promise rings for x mas. distant in a relationship is good in one way it shows the girl that your not trying to get in her pants that you have a relationship for the right reasons but you have to trust each other for this to work

Answer 8

First off if u don't trust her u don't need to be with her.Your jealous ways will drive her away.Don't go and apolize and then turn around and do the same thingBut the way women come and go but that friend your mad at will always be there.

Answer 9

you get to live and go around this life once,,so my Friend if you love this girl then you need to trust her, if you don't have trust with her ,you have nothings,, as far as a gift ' you can't buy her or any one ' the best gift of all is love ''i have loved more wemen than most guys will every think about 'i loved them all''but when i ment my wife 'that was all she wrote''my love is stronger than any jealous''my be you can write a song for her 'from the heart

Answer 10

well i told you about the santa gig....do one better...dress up like santa and ask her forgivness...and if she says yes...pop a small ring and ask her to go steady....for a while...not marriage...just to be your girl.....