My MIL is a very stubborn and passive-aggressive person...she makes it SEEM like she's being sweet, only to disguise the fact that she's just said/done something rude.
My husband and I have a 10 month old daughter who looks JUST like my husb. (she has his coloring, features, etc), my husb. and I have different looks. My husb. has a 14 year old daughter from a prev. relationship (we get along great,btw), but who looks NOTHING like him (there's actually a very good chance that she's not even his, but we don't care about that, we love her as our own).
Every time I see my MIL she has to say how SHE thinks our daughter looks NOTHING like my husb., but how my SD looks JUST like him. I find this ABSURD...and the more she does it, the crazier I feel! EVERYONE else says that our baby looks like my husb. I think my MIL is just scared that my SD isn't my husb.'s, but she won't admit it.
When she says rude things, should I call her on it right there, or should I just ignore it and move on?
2006-12-16
18:30:06
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Megan V
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I just want to say THANKS to everyone who answered so far! It helped me even a little to just get it off my chest!
I've told my husb., but he thinks I should just ignore her like he does. He said that he will DEFINITELY put her in her place if she ever says anything TO him like that, but I know she wouldn't dare say anything like that to him because she knows him and what he'd say. My personality is to be honest and just tell people what I think straight up, so I WANT to say something every time she does this, but I stop myself because I don't want to make a big deal, for fear that it might hurt my SD and even my daughter, if they hear me argue with her about it. I don't want to hurt my SD's feelings and have her feel left out b/c she doesn't look like her dad...but then again, I'm worried that my own daughter will start to think that my MIL doesn't like her or something, or is trying to disown her.
But thanks anyway! Everyone is helping so much!
2006-12-16
18:56:04 ·
update #1