My step son is only 7 he lives w/ us and sees his mom every other wk. He has gotten out of control! He steals and fights and lies and NOW He is taking swings at his mother!! We have tried everything. When he was caught stealing from the store he laughed at the cop who spoke w/ him!! We've had him in counseling and the pastor is even taken to speaking w/ him. We love him dearly but what do we do to ge this kid to straighten up?
In school he is an angel a favorite with his teacher because he is so willing and quick and his grades are fantastic. He has NO problem there it's just when he comes home he is a MONSTER.
I am not the evil step mom I love him and want whats best for him and I tell himevery day what he means to me & his family. When he isn't being a snot he CAN be a very sweet kid. and funny and obliging.
Does ANYONE have the answer???
2006-12-16 18:19:25 · 11 answers · asked by Mrs Lizzard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are 2 other kids in the house, His older brother and step sister ages 8 &9. I have been in his life since his mom walked out at age 1 ( I was Dad's best friend). He is still in counseling. He has stolen food , candy my MAKEUP (??) other kids toys and the store issue he stole a cook book ( go figure THAT one out)
2006-12-16 18:32:59 · update #1
OOPS ---and I married his Dad a year ago
2006-12-16 18:33:56 · update #2
Take him back to counseling. A few sessions is not going to solve the problem. He has an underlying anger issue that needs to be delt with.
After reading the addition to your question, he more than likely also has compulsive behavior disorder. Children who have this usually act compulsively. He should be tested by a qualified child psychiatrist for behavior disorders.
2006-12-16 18:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What are th consequences to his actions??? and I would not let a 7 year old wander the store unsupervised- any store. He needs boundrys and consequences- and to be praised when he does good- and Dad need to back them up too- taking away a toy- time out- no tv- no play- no dessert- extra chores- something that fits the misbehavior- deal w it now- Did he just steal once?? and does he lie and fight w who- are there other children in the house?? He may be doing bad stuff to get attention- do not argue w him- it gives him what he wants and continues the cycle- the strong willed child-and dare to discipline books will help- by James Dobson- take care-D
2006-12-16 18:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7 year olds can be a problem child or spoiled so I'd punish him (by making him do extra chores but not taking stuff away). He probably has a problem so maybe he needs to talk about it but he doesn't know how to express this. Ask him stuff if he's bothered by something (maybe his parent's divorce?) Anyway, you can also reward his good behavior by taking him to Disneyland or a fun place that seven year olds would like. How about a movie? Ask what he wants to watch, then you guys can bond and be closer (why not invite his mom too!) or have his mom bond with him so he doesn't keep hitting her. Maybe more bonding with his real mom would help ease the tension.
2006-12-16 18:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many possible variables there however I wou;d say that you should encourage the relationship with the teacher as apparently that person is a mentor to your step child.
Furthermore I think that unfortinatley there is just too mucj more to that story to give any more advice on. Be consistent, as honest as u cam b, and let thim know that they arre special and capable than so much more than what they or u think they can do
2006-12-16 18:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like your step-son is being rebellious. I understand that you treat him like he is your own son. However, he is hitting the mom due to her absence.
He may know why he has to stay with you. However, he does not understand and like the fact that the mother is absent.
This is not to take anything away from your parenting but, children want to be their mothers, and he is pulling all of these stunts to get the attention that he lacks from his mother.
Hang in there. Hopefully he will outgrow this problem!
2006-12-16 18:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an "angel" at school, then I would say there is something very serious going on there. Is there any possibility that someone somewhere is abusing him?
Also, its great to tell he what he means to you and his family, but do you also tell him what it means to be family -- ie what hs responsibilities are? I would observe everyone's interaction with him, somewhere he is getting conflicting signals -- and again, there maybe more dangerous signs there too. Consult someone who is an expert in child behavior.
2006-12-16 18:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you just marry the boy's father? If so, he is definitely testing the boundaries. Family counseling will help. Be firm and consistent with him. Praise him when he's behaving himself.
2006-12-16 18:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs a child psychologist. Truly. Help him.
2006-12-16 18:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So who has influenced this child? He had to learn about hitting and fighting somewhere, where was it learned?
2006-12-16 18:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
take him to boot camp
2006-12-16 18:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋