it is painful for me i feel deppresed and i am agressive to everyone i don´t wanna hurt my friends.....speccially the woman i love..... my best friend Cecilia.......I INSULT HER IN ORDER TO LEAVE ALONE FOREVER.......SHE DOESN´T KNOW i have cancer i don´t wanna worry her!
2006-12-16 17:57:32 · 13 answers · asked by Mauricio V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Understandably you are having a difficult time. This is what friends and family are for. You should look into a support group or some counseling to help you gain perspective of your situation.
As for pushing away your friends. Please reconsider. If you are terminal, do you want to spend the last years, months, weeks, days, minutes of your life ALONE, or do you want to celebrate what you do have left and squeeze the most out of every second? Also, your friends will be the ones left behind. Have you thought that perhaps they want to be able to spend as much time with you as possible and to have a chance to say goodbye.
The human spirit is strong. You may find that you can live and love more in the time you have than most people do in 10 lifetimes.
2006-12-16 18:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by coco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok, you are only hurting her, and your friends. You should be honest with them. As far as the woman you love, you are worring her with your insults and it is hurting her inside even if she does not tell you. If you really love her, then you should be honest with her and let her be there for you while you be there for her. I'm sorry to hear that you have cancer, yet some people do beat it, or at least prolong their life. Doctors are not always right about the time left. You should make the best of what time you do have and not hurt yourself and the ones you care for. I hope this helps and I wish all the best for you and that you are one of the ones that will beat the cancer. Yet mostly I wish for you the best life you can have for as long as you have it.
2006-12-16 18:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, but I don't see why you don't tell people about your cancer.
Cancer is getting healed alot these days. My neighbor had a huge brain tumor and was given 18 months to live and he beat the cancer and it's 5+ years later.
So you might as well let people know and then if you do survive you will have more of a live to come back to.
2006-12-17 06:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man it must be terrible knowing that your going to die soon. If you want my opinion even though nobody really wants to die you should just think of it as well this sucks but as for your loved ones. If I knew I was going to die I would keep my friends close and well if the woman you love doesnt know yet or even if she does but really doesnt know you to well than you should just ask her out on a date. Even though she might feel bad when you die, you would have a feeling of happiness, and you might make her feel good about herself. or are you two dating already, then you should just tell her and then enjoy the rest of your days.
2006-12-16 18:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by somerandomguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should let ur love ones know that u have cancer. Pushing them away and insulting them is not the answer. It will hurt them more if u pass away and not letting them kno anything was ever wrong.
2006-12-16 18:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by gotta kno tha info! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting her by pushing her away and when you die she will wonder why you pushed her away and may think it was something she did. Instead I truly believe you should be honest with her and spend what time you have left with her by your side. Do you really want to die alone? She deserves to know that you love her and i think you should explain your behavior to her.
2006-12-16 18:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by saliberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh please-
your a jerk with cancer! Are you for real? Did you feel that "Sting" of pain? That is selfish behavior on your part.
If your really loved these people you would share every minute of your life with them. Long or short!
Its not your choice to worry her- you are betraying her now, by lying and hurting her. The truth doesn't hurt. Your friends need to say goodbye and I love you- why would you deny them that privilege of friendship!
2006-12-16 18:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My condolences for your suffering. Surround yourself with the love of your family and friends while you are still together. Pushing them away will only make things more difficult. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-16 18:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by diidy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress makes cancer spread faster by 20 percent...dont be a statistic.
2006-12-16 18:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by brighteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋