Because of work, I have to be away with her. I'm in a lot of stress lately and I feel like I'm losing it. I'm with my wife abroad, and my daughter's left in my home country with my mother-in-law.
My wife wants me to get them asap. But I keep telling her that we need to be stable first and money is a bit of problem too.
I need to clear my head and think straight, but I'm really really consfused.
Your comments is highly appreciated.
2006-12-16 17:45:22 · 15 answers · asked by markbriones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are here because you are trying to make a better life for them. The Holidays are very hard when you are away from your family members. But keep in mind that as much as you want to go back home and bring them here that what you have now is not enough to provide for them. Just stay strong and think about future Holidays to come when you will be able to have you daughter by your side in a safe home or environment you worked so hard to accomplish. Because only then will you be able to look back to past holidays and realize that the sacrifice was worth it. Don't lose it! Stay focused on what is really important.
2006-12-16 18:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right, your writing sounds really confused and is filled with mixed signals and emotions.
i think you're torn between your career and family. both must be equally important to you or else you won't be this distressed. you probably just want to stablise your financial situation first before bringing your daughter over with you - but after 3 years... you should be able to revisit your priorities again. it's ok if now is still not the time to get your daughter. but you need to put in actionable plans to get your daughter within the next 6-10 months so that you wouldn't have to be in this same situation again, next christmas. in the meantime, how about visiting your daughter this christmas? it will be a treat for all three of you.
2006-12-17 07:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Your wife has stated she wants them there with you both, where ever you are. You don't say that you do though. And 3 years?? Sorry, but you don't have your priorities right, or whats in the best interest of your daughter and your wife and your marriage. Your daughter's mental and emotional health are at risk here also. Do you want to take that chance? If you don't want her there, fine. But do let her be with her mother and grandmother. Make arrangements and send for them immediately.
I hope you will do the right thing.
2006-12-17 02:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, all the stress you have could go away if you had your children with you. Children in the home are the balance. When you are surrounded by pure love, everything seems better, even if the money is tight. Get your children and keep them with you. Time fly's by so quick you will regret not being with them for the holidays.
2006-12-17 03:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by decarlo75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children need their parents! do both her and yourself a favour and bringher to whereever you live. I'm sure your mom-in-law has told her every time she was bad that you don't want her any more as punishment( my aunt used to say such mean things to me) Make her holiday thebest she will ever have. Many people live on very little money and we all do just fine. Besides, your daughter would rather have you than 10 million dollars.
2006-12-17 01:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You won't do any good for your daughter if you can't take care of her first. In later years, she will suffer without her parents. But now, what's important is that she is taken care of, and soon will have a stable life with her parents.
2006-12-17 01:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her, e-mail her. There is a way to iChat with her attaching a camera to your computer if your mother-in-law can hook up a camera to her computer as well. Send pictures to her, have your mother-in-law send pictures also. Stay in contact with her. Every day be mindful of working on the goal of being with your daughter.
Good luck.
2006-12-17 01:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your child tomorrow. Children need to be with their parents. Life is never stable- get your daughter.
2006-12-17 01:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a child need to be held and loved by there parents, you only live one life and you should be with the light of it (your daughter) as much as you can. money may be a factor but money doesnt buy everything.
2006-12-17 16:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your not stable it has been 3 Christmas and you haven't been with your child. your child is suffering you need to do something for you can see your child. this should be the last Christmas you should let your child spend it without you. good luck
2006-12-17 01:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋