I have been with a man for over two years and our relationship has not progressed at all.He is still married to his wife and they have been separated for almost 9 years. We have discussed moving in together but every time i find a house he has some reason he can not at that time. Finally i just gave up and stopped looking. But now i am wondering will it always be what it has always been?
2006-12-16 17:40:34 · 11 answers · asked by babygurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me add more to this his wife lives in another state than us they are really not together. They do not see each other and his children live with him. She does not even see them. I love his children to death and they even come to stay with me sometimes. I am not a bit on the side.
2006-12-16 18:28:32 · update #1
I would have moved on long ago, but when your heart is involved, you don't see it.
If you feel that it is the time to leave, then hold your head up and get out.
When your ready, try www.plentyoffish.com
2006-12-16 17:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend been there done that.
These men have no intentions of divorcing these wives. I would honestly have to tell you from life experiences.
"Keep it moving"
In the end, you will be hurt, and crying constantly over things that I am sure that you figured out three months into the relationship.
Also never believe that it over; unless you can prove it.
I was with this guy for three months he told me that he was once married, and now he is divorced. Girl, come to find out this man has been living in the same house as the wife.
Now do not get me wrong; she moved out the house, but he was going behind my back spending time with her, and come to find out they went on vacation together.
You have to know that no one has your best interest at heart except yourself. You need to keep looking and find that man that is tailored cut for you.
DO NOT SETTLE!!!!
2006-12-16 17:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right, it will always be what is has always been. He is married, does not matter if him and his wife live together are not, nor the fact that you have been dating him 2 yrs. He is not ready to make that step, why should he, he knows he is still married. Why should you want to let a married man keep you dangling?
2006-12-16 17:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is married!
Leave him!
i don't care if he is separated or not!
Just lots of bad news!
but to answer you question on how long... the longer you stay the harder it will be!
Best of luck!
no progress in 2 years?
Wow
wonder what it would be like in another 2 years?
For you?
2006-12-16 17:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been it the same go nowhere relationship for the past 10 yrs. No marriage, no kids, we dont even live together... But if your mans married you might need to leave him... Good Luck Girl
2006-12-16 17:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by help me please 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hurt intended, but you are what these men consider "a bit on the side" and how selfish and inconsiderate they are not only to their wives, other party (you), but their poor children. these men are not worth 1 sleepless night over, and ought to be ashamed of themselves placing their dickly desires over their families! Do yrself and all concerned a favour and leave, there is someone out their that is worthy...
2006-12-16 18:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not you and I don't know what this mans good qualities are but if it were me, based on the information you have given, I think I would move on with my life and try to be happy.
2006-12-16 17:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tauna H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't have the balls to leave his wife. Although they are seperated the bond or connection is still there. I would leave him and see how he reacts to that. If he loves you he'll do something about it, if not then he is not worth your time.
2006-12-16 17:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mother'f3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. Sounds like they're not even over eachother. soundsd like he's not over her.. You'll probably end up broken hearted and bitter if you don't leave now
2006-12-16 17:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you. I doubt very much he's separated.
2006-12-16 17:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋