I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-16 17:40:07 · 6 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to find out what her 'love language' is. Your's is touch, because you appreciate that, but she is uncomfortable. Ask her what you can do to make her feel special. Tell her that you want to show her that you care in a way that she is comfortable with. There are 5 love-languages - touch, quality time, affirmation, gift giving, acts of service. Find out what one is her and try to show her love in the way that she feels comfortable. Good on you for not rushing into things, I'm sure she really respects you for that!
2006-12-16 17:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by karlienz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be a good reason for the way she is maybe she is just really shy . or maybe she was mess with when she was little and it scarred her.. you don't say you have known her a long time but you don't say your seeing her and she is your girlfriend ... she may be the type of girl that don't hug guys unless they are her bf..if that is the case then you need to decided if you want to be her bf all you can do is talk to her and see if there is a problem and why she is not as affectionate as you would like her to be
2006-12-17 01:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that is sweet that you don't want to like push her away. Are you already dating? If so ask her "May I hold your hand?" or "May I give you a hug?" and when it gets to it "Is it okay if I kiss you?" that shows her that you do respect her space and things.. If you know what I mean?? I'm more of a tuchy kind of girl... not in that way... you know like holding hand and such. I've never had a BF so... If I was the way she was that's what I would want my man to do. I wish you tones of luck!
2006-12-17 01:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about your feelings and let her know you don't want sex but would love to hold her sometimes.I hope everything works out.
2006-12-17 01:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by golden tigress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to get to know each other more.. and it seems to me that she is self-consious or something.. well you can touch her arm from time to time if that helps.. get her gifts like rose or flowers.. give her special cards.. tell her that you like her.. tell her you want to further your relationship
2006-12-17 01:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by francesca C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick a sweet poem in her locker with your name signed in cursive at the end of it.
2006-12-17 01:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋