An excolleague has been hitting on me. We have business meetings and a few dinners. Danced at a Christmas party. Have I been giving wrong signals because after a goodbye hug he kissed me passionately. He is married and dont want to be involved with him. Dont want to hurt him but how to say I am not interested. Thanks
2006-12-16 17:22:35 · 13 answers · asked by Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, the truth hurts. He is acting inappropriately and you need to call him off. Try telling him in a way that is not too harsh as to not break him too much such as, "I don't know what you are thinking. I'm sorry if I gave you the wrong idea, but I'm not interested like that." Hope I helped.
2006-12-16 17:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I'd give the speech to tell him as nicely as possible that you like the 'friend' thing that you two have had in the past and aren't interested in anything more than that, but since he's married you don't have to beat around the bush in the least. Whatever your reasons for not wanting to be with him doesn't so much matter when it comes time to evade his advances. All you've got to say is that you're not interested in the least in being with someone who's involved with someone else. If he asks you 'would you have if I wasn't married' and things like that, just be honest. If he says he's ending it with her, just let him know he hasn't ended it yet.
2006-12-17 01:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's married! He has business kissing you, passionately or otherwise. Make it clear to him (by whatever means necessary) that you would never consider entering into a relationship of any kind with a married man. The key phrase here is: "you're married!". This neither hurts his ego, nor is it deniable. You are simply stating facts.
2006-12-17 01:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to make it clear dont send the wrong signals, avoid the hugs kisses and dancing keep it strictly professional
2006-12-17 01:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just say: " I am not interested!" " I apologize if I sent out any mixed signals, because I like you, but I DO NOT date married men!!! " That should do it!!!!
2006-12-17 01:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually pretty easy - just tell him that you cannot date him BECAUSE HE IS MARRIED, and you have a strict policy of never dating men who have wives who they live with. Tell him it's nothing personal, you just don't date married men, as a rule.
If he persists, remind him that he has a wife, and he should be spending time romancing her, instead of you!
2006-12-17 01:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very forward and say you don't want to be involved with a married man. You don't have to say anything else. Don't worry about his feelings..sheez
2006-12-17 01:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw a line if he crosses it make him feel awkward back away or whatever. Kissing passionately is always over line if you are not dating.
2006-12-17 01:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a spine and hurt him- he figures you're just a skank who messes with married men so he hardly has any respect for you. "I'm not interested in you or any married man" sounds fine.
2006-12-17 01:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just said it to us...now say it to him. You don't want to hurt him...he is married, and you're not interested
2006-12-17 01:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋