Well me and a male friend were going 2 hav a casual nude get 2getha b4 finals n help eachotha so 2 say but, he told me he had a girlfriend so we decided aginst it.However now we both knw we have deep feelings 4 eachother but we met eachother at bad times.So now we are having a emotional affair I think.So wat should I do?B his friend n hope he leaves his girlfriend?Even though I wan t him 2 be happy with her cuz it will make him happy?Then wat about me should I fight for him?R jus leave this test up to time and faith?
2006-12-16 17:17:13 · 6 answers · asked by cr@zi3L0v3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would leave it up to faith. If he cheats on this girl to be with you, then he will cheat on you too. If it is meant to be then it is, if not then at least you two are still friends. Sex xhanges everything so if you decide to step it up to sexual then ask yourself if losing him as a friend is worth the risk you both are about to take. If you and him are with other spouses, then you should not be having an emotional affair. It is suppressing the fellings you have for each other, and not to mention it is not fair to person you two are with now. Why should they get half of you? It's all or nothing.
2006-12-16 17:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by choco-vanilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of question really all depends on opinion and who you ask. However, I think most of the population would agree, either type of an affair hurts the one you are with. Anyway you cut it, an emotional affair, which does exist, is worse, it shows you have intimate and personal feelings toward another when you have commited that to someone else previously. What you have to do is sit down firstly and think to yourself. How long have you and your current boyfriend been together and how deep your feelings are toward eachother. Additionaly, if you agreed to get naked with another male friend, for means that I don't yet understand, then are your feelings that deep for your current beau? Those who are deeply and truly in love do not randomly make a naked get together date. You must determine in yourself what you want with your current boyfriend, this other friend, and in dating in general. Be honese with yourself and analyze your actions and feelings closely. You may be dating a guy that you love, and you may not love him, and if you don't, then you also need to discuss your feelings with him as well. Do not, and do not, go behind his back. Perhaps you feel something for this other guy because he provides you with something your boyfriend doesn't? If you have strong enough feelings for your boyfriend and love him, talking to him about it after you have already determined why you feel something for your friend and what's missing in your current relationship will make a great deal of help. Also, he may respect you more for it, and if not, if he can't handle it as a man and adult, maybe you need to re evalute more. Be cautious however if you decide you want your friend over your boyfriend, it may be wise to disuss this with him as well, is he willing to make the same decision as you would be if you left your boyfriend? People don't always find the one they want for their lives right away, sometimes they find them while in the midst with another, bottom line, you asked the question when the one and true answer lies within your heart, mind, soul and gut. Gut instincts are more true than we like to admit and tells us when and when not to take a chance/risk, where as our heats tells us what we want, while our minds try to put logic and planning into those feelings. Hopfe I've been a help and not just ramble on forever.
2006-12-16 17:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by utopitarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for this affair, get naked. He's not married, you don't say if you have someone in your life, you're young and in college so you're supposed to do stupid things and "learn from your mistakes" so you might as well have fun while you're at it. As long as you're "innocently learning" while having fun in college, I think you should carefully invite his GF over to get naked too; you might enjoy it and I promise you he'll enjoy it. So get out the candles & oils & have fun!
2006-12-16 17:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, if two people fallin love, its MORE of a threat to a marriage than just having sex.
Not worse though. Hard to even blame people for loving each other, even if they don't use condoms.
Its when people are putting parts in other people that you can blame them for, even if they admit it. Less blame if they tell.
2006-12-16 17:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, emotional affiars can be worse then purely sexual ones - if you and the other person get sincere feelings for each other, it can jeapordize both your relationships.
2006-12-16 17:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were going to have a casual nude before finals to help each other? You make no sense. Please spell out your words & try again.
2006-12-16 17:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋